I have posted about ILs before but this is about my FOO.
My husband and I don't yet have children and we both work full time, while my two sisters each have 2 children and spend a lot of time with my parents (Mum is in children's ministry at her church and runs playgroup, both sisters' children attend)
As such, contact with my FOO has become limited, though I speak with my mum every other week, to catch up. My sisters and I also have a chat group so we can let each other know if anything important comes up.
The situation has recently become troublesome, however. Last weekend my dad's sister and her family came over our side of the city for lunch. I was not involved in organising, but was not told of anything, except for the date, until I asked - 2 days prior to the lunch - when I found out the location, time, and that it was expected that I bring a specific dish.
My mum was apologetic, but I have just found out that they all forgot to tell me about another lunch celebration for my grandfather's birthday. Apparently they arranged everything a couple of weeks ago, but no one told me about any plans. I have committed to go to a friend's baby shower on the day in question and can't attend.
My mum has apologised again for the 'miscommunication', but today tried to invite me to go visit my grandfather (you know, since I can't make it to the event next week that I didn't know about). I was already on my way to an appointment and wasn't able to go with her, but I'm tempted to put her in a TO anyway, as it feels like I'm an afterthought. Is this a petty thing to do or am I justified in feeling left out?
My husband and I don't yet have children and we both work full time, while my two sisters each have 2 children and spend a lot of time with my parents (Mum is in children's ministry at her church and runs playgroup, both sisters' children attend)
As such, contact with my FOO has become limited, though I speak with my mum every other week, to catch up. My sisters and I also have a chat group so we can let each other know if anything important comes up.
The situation has recently become troublesome, however. Last weekend my dad's sister and her family came over our side of the city for lunch. I was not involved in organising, but was not told of anything, except for the date, until I asked - 2 days prior to the lunch - when I found out the location, time, and that it was expected that I bring a specific dish.
My mum was apologetic, but I have just found out that they all forgot to tell me about another lunch celebration for my grandfather's birthday. Apparently they arranged everything a couple of weeks ago, but no one told me about any plans. I have committed to go to a friend's baby shower on the day in question and can't attend.
My mum has apologised again for the 'miscommunication', but today tried to invite me to go visit my grandfather (you know, since I can't make it to the event next week that I didn't know about). I was already on my way to an appointment and wasn't able to go with her, but I'm tempted to put her in a TO anyway, as it feels like I'm an afterthought. Is this a petty thing to do or am I justified in feeling left out?