Update pg 8 and her response pg 9*
I am wondering what you would consider normal as far as how often one "hangs out" with their mother. I am in my late 20's and I am married (8years) with the first baby on the way. A little history, my mother moved from a bigger city to live around me and my husband in a smaller town because she claims that she isn't happy unless she is living around me. My mother has made no friends out here and I am the only one for her to do anything with. Therefore, my mother insists on hanging out with me as much as possible and since her and my husband have a rough history (they're civil but a day together isn't preferable to either of them) she prefers I do things with her alone which means I split my time between her and my husband. She invites me to do something with her EVERYDAY! She invites herself to any and everything me and my husband do on the weekend. She will get mad if me and him go out of town for a date night and demand to know why she wasn't invited because she is bored and wants to go out of town too!
She gets so offended and says she doesn't know why she moved out to be around me because I am always ignoring her or turning her down and that I would rather spend time with my husband than her. On that point she is correct and I do turn her down often because she asks me to do something every single day. I end up spending at least 1-2 times a week hanging out with her which she feels is not enough and claims she never gets to see me and I even talk to her through text multiple times a day and a phone call every day. She always talks about how she cant wait for me and my husband to get a house so she can put a "granny flat" on it!!!
I just want to spend my life with my family, meaning my husband and my baby (coming soon) and have a normal visiting relationship with my mom (my idea of normal is once every other week we go do something together). But at the same time I feel like maybe this is normal and I am being a brat...? I am grateful to have her in my life and be able to do things with her, just not at this level! Thoughts?