I'm currently pregnant with our first l.o.... my family and I are not close.. My mom has bipolar & borderline personality.. (i figured it out as an adult..) i endured years of physical and mental abuse by her.. my sister was untouched.. My mom is currently on her 4 th husband... (you have to stop cheating on then to keep one) so I cut her off years ago. I'm only kinda close with her second husband & his wife..
My unofficially adopted Mom passed away 3 years ago due to cancer. The older women i work with have all taken me under their wing. My daughter will have a lot of "Nana's"😉
My in-laws use my lack of biological parental units to their advantage.. i feel like they try to take over everything.. Our wedding guest list was a fight. They assumed because of my lack of close family they could just have that part of the first list.. (my work girls are my family I've worked with them for 8 years) . I won that battle...
next up my baby shower... Due to working on a maternity floor we do a separate shower for work gals then family. My mother in law decided to throw my baby shower..... She constantly brings up costs to my husband... Hoping he will give her money. She complains about planning it.. The guest list. Which much like our wedding I only know about 25% of those invited..
But the truth is... We got pregnant before her dd. they got married before us by a year.. my dh has a good job together we make good money.. her dd & her hubby don't make as good money.. They travel 5 hours to her house with appliances and such when something breaks.. she is babied by her parents..
We are told we more money so we can afford more. My m.i.l asked my husband for a $300 necklace for mother's day... Seriously!!!!!
Honestly, my husband needed a lot of care when he was born. He was born with a cleft lip and palate.. now as an adult they baby his sister to make up for it..
No matter what I do or say I'm wrong. She wants to be in the room for labor i said no! Hubby is okay with that. I feel like as soon as she gets to the hospital she's going to take over. I'm so anxious it's ridiculous...
My unofficially adopted Mom passed away 3 years ago due to cancer. The older women i work with have all taken me under their wing. My daughter will have a lot of "Nana's"😉
My in-laws use my lack of biological parental units to their advantage.. i feel like they try to take over everything.. Our wedding guest list was a fight. They assumed because of my lack of close family they could just have that part of the first list.. (my work girls are my family I've worked with them for 8 years) . I won that battle...
next up my baby shower... Due to working on a maternity floor we do a separate shower for work gals then family. My mother in law decided to throw my baby shower..... She constantly brings up costs to my husband... Hoping he will give her money. She complains about planning it.. The guest list. Which much like our wedding I only know about 25% of those invited..
But the truth is... We got pregnant before her dd. they got married before us by a year.. my dh has a good job together we make good money.. her dd & her hubby don't make as good money.. They travel 5 hours to her house with appliances and such when something breaks.. she is babied by her parents..
We are told we more money so we can afford more. My m.i.l asked my husband for a $300 necklace for mother's day... Seriously!!!!!
Honestly, my husband needed a lot of care when he was born. He was born with a cleft lip and palate.. now as an adult they baby his sister to make up for it..
No matter what I do or say I'm wrong. She wants to be in the room for labor i said no! Hubby is okay with that. I feel like as soon as she gets to the hospital she's going to take over. I'm so anxious it's ridiculous...