My partner (not married) DP is in LC with his mum. Me and our 3 kids (2 mine from previous relationship and 1 together) Have put her in TO.
Since TO she has stopped sending non bio kids birthday cards but sends for bio grandchild. DP told her at Christmas no more cards or gifts for any of the kids. He went to visit her after Easter and filled the car boot with Easter eggs I was upset and his excuse was that some were from out of town family so he didn't want to punish them. They were thrown in the bin before they made it in the house.
This brings us to few weeks ago she calls on youngests birthday asking to see LO as she has cards from her and other family members. I heard as I was sat in the seat next to him in the car he then said "mum iv told you about this no more cards I will call you tomorrow." I didn't mention it and changed the subject when he hung up as it was LO's birthday and he seemed to be handling it in his own way.
Now we came back from holiday yesterday and she has posted cards through the door I opened them as there was a few and I wasn't sure if they were all from her and her family. Turns out they were, she normally buys all the cards for her sisters and sometimes adult kids and writes them out to send to other family members because she thinks she HBIC.
Some contain money so I don't want to throw it away but I have opened them and as they were hand delivered by her, they have no return address and more than likely not even sent by the people on the cards. Also these random family members do not send cards for non bio kids either and these kids have been in my DP life 5 years before bio kid was even born. DP dads side of family are fantastic and treat all GK exactly the same we have a great relationship with them.
DP is obviously not putting his foot down hard enough. Iv blocked her and her adult kids from everything so they have never been told to get lost from me personally and I'm sure DP has been down playing my want for CO with them.
I'm planning on putting all cards/cash into one envelope and posting back to his mums house as I have her address but should that be it? Or should I send a note with it demanding to be left alone?
Since TO she has stopped sending non bio kids birthday cards but sends for bio grandchild. DP told her at Christmas no more cards or gifts for any of the kids. He went to visit her after Easter and filled the car boot with Easter eggs I was upset and his excuse was that some were from out of town family so he didn't want to punish them. They were thrown in the bin before they made it in the house.
This brings us to few weeks ago she calls on youngests birthday asking to see LO as she has cards from her and other family members. I heard as I was sat in the seat next to him in the car he then said "mum iv told you about this no more cards I will call you tomorrow." I didn't mention it and changed the subject when he hung up as it was LO's birthday and he seemed to be handling it in his own way.
Now we came back from holiday yesterday and she has posted cards through the door I opened them as there was a few and I wasn't sure if they were all from her and her family. Turns out they were, she normally buys all the cards for her sisters and sometimes adult kids and writes them out to send to other family members because she thinks she HBIC.
Some contain money so I don't want to throw it away but I have opened them and as they were hand delivered by her, they have no return address and more than likely not even sent by the people on the cards. Also these random family members do not send cards for non bio kids either and these kids have been in my DP life 5 years before bio kid was even born. DP dads side of family are fantastic and treat all GK exactly the same we have a great relationship with them.
DP is obviously not putting his foot down hard enough. Iv blocked her and her adult kids from everything so they have never been told to get lost from me personally and I'm sure DP has been down playing my want for CO with them.
I'm planning on putting all cards/cash into one envelope and posting back to his mums house as I have her address but should that be it? Or should I send a note with it demanding to be left alone?