Hi Ladies!
I cut off my Egg Donor but I still have alot of her sisters on my FB, I posted something that I didn't my ED to know so I sent a PM to Aunt asking her not to share information with ED since she is a regular hosebeast and I don't want her to know that we may be moving (she has a habit of "just being in the neighborhood" and dropping by- except she has no reason to come up to my town) Anyways onto the messages
Hi Aunt GW we will be moving to Va Beach area if I get the job. I want to let you know that Charles and I would appreciate it if you didn't share this info with Cheryl. Due to her behavior, for the foreseeable future she is no longer welcome in our lives.
K D
She is narcissistic and very toxic and I don't want Soraya and Erin growing up around that. She try's to play like she was some great mother but really all she cared about was BINGO and she still plays, don't let her fool you
GW
Kirstin, after the life I have lived I am not very easily fooled.
GW
I have more of a response but not at the moment. But I will say please do not put me in the position of keeping secrets. I don't do that. I would hope that you are adult enough to communicate your feelings to your mother and inform her that you are moving. To move away and not do so is just wrong. Always make sure the punishment fits the crime and leave room in your heart for forgiveness and growth. Love Aunt GW
Is she right? Am I essentially asking her to keep secrets and choose sides... DH thinks she is saying this so that she doesn't have to acknowledge that ED is actually a problem. I wrote out a response but didn't send it yet. Here it is...
I'm not asking you to keep secrets from my Egg Donor… I am asking you not go out of your way to bring us up in conversation.
As far as the punishment fitting the crime, it does. She has been awful to me my entire life (I am just now realizing that the way she treated me was not normal). She didn't care about me when I was growing up. What kind of parent lets a school counselor tell her daughter that she isn't smart enough to take French and doesn't get pissed? In fact she actually agreed with him. Or throws a tantrum because I couldn't (and even if I could, I wouldn't) give her 3/4 of my pay check for the month ($800) and said I am an ungrateful hateful bitch. She also uses the "all that I did for you"… more specifically "I drove out (uninvited mind you) at christmas to NM so that you can use my highlander (didn't ask her to) so that you could bring your dog back (which she then guilted us into giving away before we left for Italy by saying we wouldn't be able to get a house that is big enough for a dog). And I can't forget the I paid for you to go to Europe… blah blah blah I've paid her back that money and then some since then (before ya'll clued me in and advised me not to give her any money- she's payed me back $1600 out of the close to $5K we've given her over the years (I consider this my "stupid tax" and consider my debt for the Europe trip payed off)
She doesn't respect boundaries (or my rules as a parent) at all and treats me like a child (I can give you examples a mile long- but I've been basically caring for myself since I started working in 2001) and I'm sick of it. She is ALWAYS the victim, even when she is the one doing and saying horrible things (woe is me). She not a healthy or safe person for my girls to be around.
Edited: because I figured out how to fix it! lol