We see the ILs once a month for lunch and an activity like swimming. They live in a different area and MIL likes to try and be the boss, so we limit time with her. DH is supportive of this and has actually been pushing for seeing her even less, which is what we will start doing. On this trip we will be driving our own car, staying in our own suite and there are people we are looking forward to seeing.
We will be heading in a few days to a week long family get together with my FIL's side. It will be him, his 2 siblings and their families, so not a huge reunion. There will be 16 adults and 16 kids total. Our DD is MIL and FILs only grandchild. FILs sibling #1 has 3 grandkids, and sibling #2 has 12 grandkids. Most of sibling #2's grandkids are overall very ill-behaved (long story).
Anyway, MIL feels for some reason that she must cater to these other people's kids (they're the kids of her nieces/nephews by marriage, and she has only met most of then once). Among other things, she has decided she is going to do a tea party for all of the girls. The girls are 9, 7, 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, and 2. She ordered an expensive, breakable tea set for it (??), and asked me to bring DD's frozen CD for music. I told her sure. I figured it would be fun for the kids to drink lemonade from a tea pot and have tiny sandwiches and snacks.
Today she texts me and demands I bring all of lo's princess dresses, and princess dolls (she has most of the Disney Princes barbie dolls) because we will "need them for the party". I don't want to drag a bunch of nice dress up clothes or dolls on vacation with us, and I don't want 7 other little kids we've never met having a free for all with them. I don't want the dolls or dresses ruined especially since the kids will also be eating, and I don't want DD getting upset when she's having fun on our trip and out come her dolls and dresses for everyone.
Anyway, I'm not a bitch for telling MIL no, that I won't bring the dolls and dresses, right? I feel like the food and decorations she has will be plenty. I already told her I'm leaving them home so they don't get ruined and so lo isn't upset. She replied with "you need to bering them. She needs to learn to share". DD shares perfectly fine for a 3 year old, and she picked a set of Disney water toys to bring to share as there will be a lot of swimming. DH said just ignore MIL which I have been, have not replied to her.
MIL did buy a lot of the dolls/dresses, but I feel like that doesn't matter since she GAVE them to DD as gifts and they are at our house.
We will be heading in a few days to a week long family get together with my FIL's side. It will be him, his 2 siblings and their families, so not a huge reunion. There will be 16 adults and 16 kids total. Our DD is MIL and FILs only grandchild. FILs sibling #1 has 3 grandkids, and sibling #2 has 12 grandkids. Most of sibling #2's grandkids are overall very ill-behaved (long story).
Anyway, MIL feels for some reason that she must cater to these other people's kids (they're the kids of her nieces/nephews by marriage, and she has only met most of then once). Among other things, she has decided she is going to do a tea party for all of the girls. The girls are 9, 7, 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, and 2. She ordered an expensive, breakable tea set for it (??), and asked me to bring DD's frozen CD for music. I told her sure. I figured it would be fun for the kids to drink lemonade from a tea pot and have tiny sandwiches and snacks.
Today she texts me and demands I bring all of lo's princess dresses, and princess dolls (she has most of the Disney Princes barbie dolls) because we will "need them for the party". I don't want to drag a bunch of nice dress up clothes or dolls on vacation with us, and I don't want 7 other little kids we've never met having a free for all with them. I don't want the dolls or dresses ruined especially since the kids will also be eating, and I don't want DD getting upset when she's having fun on our trip and out come her dolls and dresses for everyone.
Anyway, I'm not a bitch for telling MIL no, that I won't bring the dolls and dresses, right? I feel like the food and decorations she has will be plenty. I already told her I'm leaving them home so they don't get ruined and so lo isn't upset. She replied with "you need to bering them. She needs to learn to share". DD shares perfectly fine for a 3 year old, and she picked a set of Disney water toys to bring to share as there will be a lot of swimming. DH said just ignore MIL which I have been, have not replied to her.
MIL did buy a lot of the dolls/dresses, but I feel like that doesn't matter since she GAVE them to DD as gifts and they are at our house.