Not in laws, but my family. My husband and I have decided to raise our children without religion until they reach an age where they can decide what belief system, if any, gives them comfort. Since my religion is different from my husband, and also my ds's bio dad, we all decided not to encourage one religion over another, and not to bring ds or dd to church, coven, temple, or other religious establishment until they are 10 years old.
My family asked if ds (2) could go to bible school with my sister. I said no, that he was not old enough. So they asked dh. He said no that ds wouldn't be going unless he was about ten and wanted to. So my mom whispered to my sister (7 years old) and then she started harassing me or do every five minutes. I told her no, but as I made an agreement with my mother not to discuss my religion with my youngest sister. ( I'm pagan, my family is baptist, my husband is atheist, ds dad is Christian) I asked sister to play with D's for a minute so I could talk to my parents outside. They yelled at me. Said not letting ds go to church is the reason I'm having car trouble, etc. So I left. But every conversation with them ends with can ds go to church.
How do I resolve this conflict without cutting them off altogether? Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this. I don't want to make everyone mad, but I want to make sure ds knows that there are many options when it come to religion, that it is a very personal choice, and when he is old enough to decide what belief, if any, gives him comfort, that I will support him.
My family asked if ds (2) could go to bible school with my sister. I said no, that he was not old enough. So they asked dh. He said no that ds wouldn't be going unless he was about ten and wanted to. So my mom whispered to my sister (7 years old) and then she started harassing me or do every five minutes. I told her no, but as I made an agreement with my mother not to discuss my religion with my youngest sister. ( I'm pagan, my family is baptist, my husband is atheist, ds dad is Christian) I asked sister to play with D's for a minute so I could talk to my parents outside. They yelled at me. Said not letting ds go to church is the reason I'm having car trouble, etc. So I left. But every conversation with them ends with can ds go to church.
How do I resolve this conflict without cutting them off altogether? Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this. I don't want to make everyone mad, but I want to make sure ds knows that there are many options when it come to religion, that it is a very personal choice, and when he is old enough to decide what belief, if any, gives him comfort, that I will support him.