Hi to all friendly ladies here,
I decided to write a new post to give you all some updates about my current situation.
This is link to my old post:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a62443795/sil-is-mean-to-our-adopted-daughter-mil-doesnt-care-ud-page-13-25
We are doing good here. Everything ofcourse could be better, but I am happy with our current accomplishment.
ODD receive therapy from a therapist who is specialist in adopted children issue. She is doing great. We go to church that has service in our native language, and she enjoy her sunday school there.
In the other hand, things are not going smooth with my marriage. After our 4th session with ODD therapist, we decided that we need marriage concelling. We went there couple of times, before I know for sure that I cant be with him anymore. He didnt take it very nice, he thought i gave him false hope by going to marriage conselling and in the end served him divorce paper. But well, I need to do what it feels right.
After he went away from our marriage home, he hasnt come home even once. and after my decision to divorce him, we are starting to talk about custody. The therapist advice us that the children are better live with me, and he gets visitation without grandparents around until she is ready for them.
Everything was going great until 4 weeks ago, DuH promised ODD to take her to ice skate. But 2 days before the weekend, my YDD receive vaccination and had fever so i called him to tell him that YDD cannot go, so only ODD will go with him. And he didnt show up, no warning, no text, no call. Poor ODD sit in front of the door from 11 am to 4pm and it breaks my heart. Since then I didnt tell ODD when his dad will pick her up. I am currently still trying to find solution to this situation.
But in the end, we are in better place thanks to all lovely ladies here. Without you, I probably still stuck in the same situation. Thank you very much and I wish you all good day! 