I'm fairly new here, but need some advice. I've read your Pokemon thread and that's a lot of shit to remember, but I'm going to try.
Ok, so in May I got married. Very simple wedding and not many ppl invited because I wanted something less stressful. Back in April my mom decided last minute she was throwing me, I guess, a brdial shower. I wasnt all that interested, but whatever. My aunt was invited. A little background my mom doesn't like her sister. They are complete opposites. Think of my mom as a really conservative, southern belle. My aunt, a 50 yr old with purple highlights, never married, an athiest, etc. You get it, different in every way.
Anyways, the day of my shower my aunt shows up and I can just hear my mom sort of making fun of aunt with her friends. I'm sure she heard a lot, but ignored her. When it came time to open gifts my aunts gift wasn't really like everyone elses "typical" gift. It was a crotcheted shawl/scarf and a crotcheted blanket in my favorite color. My mom was like "well that's interesting. You know target was right down the street." That really pissed me off and I told her to knock it off when I had her alone. I thanked my aunt. I felt she put a lot of work into my gifts and I really loved that. I've never had anything crotcheted before. It was cool.
In June, we moved into our house and started decorating the rooms. I specifically looked for that blanket to put in my bedroom. Couldn't find it. I asked dh if he had seen it and for a week I searched every damn box looking for it. I called my mom and was telling her I lost it. She said "you didn't lose it. I threw it along with that hideous scarf when we were cleaning out the apartment. It would have never gone with anything in your house. " I got mad and told her that wasn't okay and wasn't hers to touch and she started crying and hung up. We've talked since, but I'm not up for her daily convos since then.
Here's the thing. My mom has as always belittled my aunt. Growing up it was always "she's a slut. Who chooses not to have kids? She needs to grow up and stop looking like that." Etc. Btw my aunt is actually super cool. She loves art, she went to college and does pretty well for herself and makes very good money. Has a love for books and embraces who she is. I think my mother just hates her because she's everything my mother felt she couldn't be. Idk. I feel like my mother took it to far and I need to address her when I see her this Sunday. But how do I go about telling her how hurtful it was. My aunt even texted to ask if the blanket matched my bedding(she wanted to see a quick pic of it) cause we talked about it and now I don't even know what to say to her.
Ok, so in May I got married. Very simple wedding and not many ppl invited because I wanted something less stressful. Back in April my mom decided last minute she was throwing me, I guess, a brdial shower. I wasnt all that interested, but whatever. My aunt was invited. A little background my mom doesn't like her sister. They are complete opposites. Think of my mom as a really conservative, southern belle. My aunt, a 50 yr old with purple highlights, never married, an athiest, etc. You get it, different in every way.
Anyways, the day of my shower my aunt shows up and I can just hear my mom sort of making fun of aunt with her friends. I'm sure she heard a lot, but ignored her. When it came time to open gifts my aunts gift wasn't really like everyone elses "typical" gift. It was a crotcheted shawl/scarf and a crotcheted blanket in my favorite color. My mom was like "well that's interesting. You know target was right down the street." That really pissed me off and I told her to knock it off when I had her alone. I thanked my aunt. I felt she put a lot of work into my gifts and I really loved that. I've never had anything crotcheted before. It was cool.
In June, we moved into our house and started decorating the rooms. I specifically looked for that blanket to put in my bedroom. Couldn't find it. I asked dh if he had seen it and for a week I searched every damn box looking for it. I called my mom and was telling her I lost it. She said "you didn't lose it. I threw it along with that hideous scarf when we were cleaning out the apartment. It would have never gone with anything in your house. " I got mad and told her that wasn't okay and wasn't hers to touch and she started crying and hung up. We've talked since, but I'm not up for her daily convos since then.
Here's the thing. My mom has as always belittled my aunt. Growing up it was always "she's a slut. Who chooses not to have kids? She needs to grow up and stop looking like that." Etc. Btw my aunt is actually super cool. She loves art, she went to college and does pretty well for herself and makes very good money. Has a love for books and embraces who she is. I think my mother just hates her because she's everything my mother felt she couldn't be. Idk. I feel like my mother took it to far and I need to address her when I see her this Sunday. But how do I go about telling her how hurtful it was. My aunt even texted to ask if the blanket matched my bedding(she wanted to see a quick pic of it) cause we talked about it and now I don't even know what to say to her.