So dh and I have been having issues about mil and what we agree on.
Some background-while I was pregnant mil offered to watch ds while we work because she works from home. I told her no ds will be going to daycare as I think it will be better for him ( she has a half hour break and has to be on the computer all day to meet her quota) well it went on for months of her saying she could watch him and how she doesn't think he should be in daycare. She even went as far as volunteering fil and both bils to also watch him and had a schedule made out of who was going to watch him and what day. This was all in front of dh and he never said a word and when I brought it up he would say she is only trying to be helpful and be nice. Also that I was hormonal(I left every visit crying). Well Ds was born (she does not watch him) but made him a Facebook page dh again said nothing because it's his mom. I went off on her told her to take it down and she can either learn her place as a grandma or not be one at all. This left it pretty bad for us I would get worked up just knowing I had to see this woman. Well the first time we let her babysit ds was a year old and she left him with bil to go to church and didn't feed him. dh thinks this is not a big deal I do. It has gone as far as fil and I having a full on cussing at eachother fight over the phone and dh did nothing about it but walked out of the room.
I feel this has ruined the relationship between mil/fil because dh couldn't not stick up for me. And I hate seeing them anytime I see them im just reminded of how let down I was by dh. I just honestly don't know what to do he puts all the blame on me. By saying I'm taking it to far and this shouldn't be an issue.
Some background-while I was pregnant mil offered to watch ds while we work because she works from home. I told her no ds will be going to daycare as I think it will be better for him ( she has a half hour break and has to be on the computer all day to meet her quota) well it went on for months of her saying she could watch him and how she doesn't think he should be in daycare. She even went as far as volunteering fil and both bils to also watch him and had a schedule made out of who was going to watch him and what day. This was all in front of dh and he never said a word and when I brought it up he would say she is only trying to be helpful and be nice. Also that I was hormonal(I left every visit crying). Well Ds was born (she does not watch him) but made him a Facebook page dh again said nothing because it's his mom. I went off on her told her to take it down and she can either learn her place as a grandma or not be one at all. This left it pretty bad for us I would get worked up just knowing I had to see this woman. Well the first time we let her babysit ds was a year old and she left him with bil to go to church and didn't feed him. dh thinks this is not a big deal I do. It has gone as far as fil and I having a full on cussing at eachother fight over the phone and dh did nothing about it but walked out of the room.
I feel this has ruined the relationship between mil/fil because dh couldn't not stick up for me. And I hate seeing them anytime I see them im just reminded of how let down I was by dh. I just honestly don't know what to do he puts all the blame on me. By saying I'm taking it to far and this shouldn't be an issue.