New poster here but i really dont know how to deal with this.
A little bg: SO and i have been together since shortly after my ex husband and i separated. My mother has always blamed him for my marriage falling apart (bullshit) and has always found reasons to not like him and not get to know him. This past winter he got into some serious stuff (drugs, without me knowing obviously) and got in some trouble in January. He spent a month in jail, which resulted in me losing our home because i lost my job due to health problems at the beginning of my pregnancy. Which in turn resulted in me living back with my parents for the time being. He has been in a halfway house for 6 months now and sober. Recovery has been amazing and our relationship is the best its ever been![:)]( ":)")
but my mom resents him for this too. Has not spoken to him and has refused to see him or hear about his progress at all.
Okay sorry that was a long bg lol. Anyways. I'm 38 weeks pregnant now. Lo will be coming any time. And my mother is insistent on being at the hospital when hes born. Which confuses me because when dd was born (scheduled induction, we knew for weeks before she was born when she was going to be), she chose to go camping and didn't meet her until we were home from the hospital. My mother loves my ex so it makes no sense to me why she would have no interest in coming when dd was born but now all of a sudden she needs to be there when this lo is born? I may be being overly sensitive but i feel like she wants to come for no other reason than to start drama with SO. Or to try for some spur of the moment forgiveness, which isn't going to fly. She just went off on him a couple weeks ago on fb for literally no reason. He apologized to her, even though he didn't need to at all. And she ignored the apology.
Im terrified that my sons birth is going to turn into me having to tell her to leave the hospital and there being drama. But I don't know how to go about talking to her about it...
A little bg: SO and i have been together since shortly after my ex husband and i separated. My mother has always blamed him for my marriage falling apart (bullshit) and has always found reasons to not like him and not get to know him. This past winter he got into some serious stuff (drugs, without me knowing obviously) and got in some trouble in January. He spent a month in jail, which resulted in me losing our home because i lost my job due to health problems at the beginning of my pregnancy. Which in turn resulted in me living back with my parents for the time being. He has been in a halfway house for 6 months now and sober. Recovery has been amazing and our relationship is the best its ever been
but my mom resents him for this too. Has not spoken to him and has refused to see him or hear about his progress at all. Okay sorry that was a long bg lol. Anyways. I'm 38 weeks pregnant now. Lo will be coming any time. And my mother is insistent on being at the hospital when hes born. Which confuses me because when dd was born (scheduled induction, we knew for weeks before she was born when she was going to be), she chose to go camping and didn't meet her until we were home from the hospital. My mother loves my ex so it makes no sense to me why she would have no interest in coming when dd was born but now all of a sudden she needs to be there when this lo is born? I may be being overly sensitive but i feel like she wants to come for no other reason than to start drama with SO. Or to try for some spur of the moment forgiveness, which isn't going to fly. She just went off on him a couple weeks ago on fb for literally no reason. He apologized to her, even though he didn't need to at all. And she ignored the apology.
Im terrified that my sons birth is going to turn into me having to tell her to leave the hospital and there being drama. But I don't know how to go about talking to her about it...
