My sister is getting married in 3 weeks and she has made it explicitly clear no kids. This is fine, her wedding, her rules, I respect that.
My baby is 7 months old and VERY attached to me. She plays shy with family and has never been left except once overnight with my mom at 12 weeks for about 12 hours. She cries immediately if handed to a stranger and it stresses me and her out. (Her and I? ) She cries a lot and we have a lot of sleep issues. As in she won't go to sleep unless I'm in the room.
My sister has hired me a babysitter to stay at my mom's while I'm at wedding with hubby an hour away. I trust her judgment on sitter but I do not want to go. I don't want to stress out my baby with a complete stranger. It's the only reason I do t want to go but to me it's huge. Yes her wedding is a huge deal but I'm not IN it, how does one person really matter in the grand scheme of things?
Would you go and suck it up? Yes my baby will live but the last 7 months have been hell. I have ppd and anxiety and I don't know if it's me or if this really is worth skipping the wedding for.
And if you did skip it would you offer to pay for your plate? I had already planned on a $500 wedding gift, do I need to cover my dinner as well?
I know she will be super pissed, but she is allowing her future Sil to have her 3 month old baby present. I do NOT want to bring my baby but I feel like if she can accommodate someone who won't go than she should be able to understand where I'm coming from ?
On phone sorry if there are typos!
My baby is 7 months old and VERY attached to me. She plays shy with family and has never been left except once overnight with my mom at 12 weeks for about 12 hours. She cries immediately if handed to a stranger and it stresses me and her out. (Her and I? ) She cries a lot and we have a lot of sleep issues. As in she won't go to sleep unless I'm in the room.
My sister has hired me a babysitter to stay at my mom's while I'm at wedding with hubby an hour away. I trust her judgment on sitter but I do not want to go. I don't want to stress out my baby with a complete stranger. It's the only reason I do t want to go but to me it's huge. Yes her wedding is a huge deal but I'm not IN it, how does one person really matter in the grand scheme of things?
Would you go and suck it up? Yes my baby will live but the last 7 months have been hell. I have ppd and anxiety and I don't know if it's me or if this really is worth skipping the wedding for.
And if you did skip it would you offer to pay for your plate? I had already planned on a $500 wedding gift, do I need to cover my dinner as well?
I know she will be super pissed, but she is allowing her future Sil to have her 3 month old baby present. I do NOT want to bring my baby but I feel like if she can accommodate someone who won't go than she should be able to understand where I'm coming from ?
On phone sorry if there are typos!
