So I'll try to make this short. BIL (54) lives a couple hours away. Married for the first time 2 years ago, and he and new wife come to town every 6-8 weeks or so either for a holiday, birthday or one of her extended family events. BIL prefers to stay in our guest room. Wife sometimes stays and is somewhat needy when here, as is he. They like to just sit in my family room off my kitchen for hours while I'm going about my business. They are comfortable going in my fridge and pantry, and I will also make extra food for them. Their stays are somewhat open ended - for instance, over a long weekend they may stay until 6 or 7 on a Sunday instead of taking off earlier in the day. Or worse, decide to stay over on a Sunday night and take off super early Monday to get to work. - we somewhat relish our personal family time due to travel for jobs, sports activities, etc. So my question to you is - do I just buck up and deal with this and have them in my home even though it's uncomfortable? MInd you, they could stay with her mom a couple miles away with a totally empty house, but enjoy my house better. Or do I try to set up boundaries? DH thinks boundaries are basically telling them to never come.