His Bat Shit Crazy mother brainwashed him. So my SIL(E) informed me that MIL and silver (M) are coming down a week after my due date and staying for 10 days. MIL told E that she wants me to tell my family they're not allowed to come visit baby (if she's even here) because they're traveling from Indiana to see the babies. Since this was news to me I called DH and asked him if he knew about this and he said no.
After hearing that I asked her about it on one of her weekly calls. She said she didn't have to tell me because she wasn't staying at my place. She let me know they'd be here for 10 days which collides with my mother's birthday, her response? "So what? I never see them on my birthday she'll live. " I let her talk with the kids and hung up.
So today I get a text from DH telling me that his mother tools him that I'm letting her in the delivery room if baby hasn't come yet, she's going to read the Bible loud and clear while I'm in labor, make the doctors and nurses pray with her, and that I said she could cut the cord. Hell no.. DH knows it will be him and my mom. No one else. So I called MIL to discuss this nonexistent conversation and she said that God told her that baby girl will come on September 8th, that she has to be in the room and only her and DH can be in there. She started to tell me other things God told her, like baby girl will be 5 lbs so I must not be eating right. Plus other absurd things. Anyway once I hung up the phone it really got me thinking about DH'S behavior. The first year we were together he hadn't seen is mom, that following Christmas we went up for me to meet her the first time. When we got back home he was acting different, not to this extent but different and he snapped out of it a few months later when we get married. After the twins were born we ended up staying in Indiana for a month during the summer, we had a wedding there just so MIL would get to be there(she also insisted and had me wear her dress) once again we got home and DH was acting different still not as bad as a few months ago. He went alone to visit his mom after she had been in the hospital to help her until his brother got back from visiting his wife's family. When he came back he was saying how God spoke to him, shot the xbox, started saying if anything is on the TV has to be about God same goes for songs.
Only thing I don't get is she's a social worker and does this to all her kids. Once I got done thinking that I called and left a message for my counselor that I needed to come in as soon as there's an opening. Definitely don't want her around the kids and I alone after that. .
I do have more back story, just not much about her. Mostly relating to DH.
Here is what was missing from OP.
DH and I are currently seperated due to the crazy behavior. He has been getting the help he needs and going as far as cutting his mother out of his, the kids, and my life. Although we no longer have contact with MIL she still contacts his brother and E. Those are the two who were going to watch the boys while I was in the hospital. E informed me the MIL is coming down Aug 29th-Sept 10th. I'm unsure of how I feel knowing that MIL was originally suppose to stay at their house while she was in town. I don't think DH will go visit her either but it's been on my mind. I don't want him to relapse from being around her when he has been getting the help he needs and clearly she needs too. He has promised me he won't be talking to her period until she agrees to get the help she needs and has even talked about calling her workplace and explaining this to them.
After hearing that I asked her about it on one of her weekly calls. She said she didn't have to tell me because she wasn't staying at my place. She let me know they'd be here for 10 days which collides with my mother's birthday, her response? "So what? I never see them on my birthday she'll live. " I let her talk with the kids and hung up.
So today I get a text from DH telling me that his mother tools him that I'm letting her in the delivery room if baby hasn't come yet, she's going to read the Bible loud and clear while I'm in labor, make the doctors and nurses pray with her, and that I said she could cut the cord. Hell no.. DH knows it will be him and my mom. No one else. So I called MIL to discuss this nonexistent conversation and she said that God told her that baby girl will come on September 8th, that she has to be in the room and only her and DH can be in there. She started to tell me other things God told her, like baby girl will be 5 lbs so I must not be eating right. Plus other absurd things. Anyway once I hung up the phone it really got me thinking about DH'S behavior. The first year we were together he hadn't seen is mom, that following Christmas we went up for me to meet her the first time. When we got back home he was acting different, not to this extent but different and he snapped out of it a few months later when we get married. After the twins were born we ended up staying in Indiana for a month during the summer, we had a wedding there just so MIL would get to be there(she also insisted and had me wear her dress) once again we got home and DH was acting different still not as bad as a few months ago. He went alone to visit his mom after she had been in the hospital to help her until his brother got back from visiting his wife's family. When he came back he was saying how God spoke to him, shot the xbox, started saying if anything is on the TV has to be about God same goes for songs.
Only thing I don't get is she's a social worker and does this to all her kids. Once I got done thinking that I called and left a message for my counselor that I needed to come in as soon as there's an opening. Definitely don't want her around the kids and I alone after that. .
I do have more back story, just not much about her. Mostly relating to DH.
Here is what was missing from OP.
DH and I are currently seperated due to the crazy behavior. He has been getting the help he needs and going as far as cutting his mother out of his, the kids, and my life. Although we no longer have contact with MIL she still contacts his brother and E. Those are the two who were going to watch the boys while I was in the hospital. E informed me the MIL is coming down Aug 29th-Sept 10th. I'm unsure of how I feel knowing that MIL was originally suppose to stay at their house while she was in town. I don't think DH will go visit her either but it's been on my mind. I don't want him to relapse from being around her when he has been getting the help he needs and clearly she needs too. He has promised me he won't be talking to her period until she agrees to get the help she needs and has even talked about calling her workplace and explaining this to them.