My parents had helped me out with my year old DS A LOT for the first8 months. I had a complicated csec and horrible recovery. DH Had to travel a lot to another country for tax reasons. DS is extremely high needs with mild SPD. I needed all the help. And they helped. Esp my dad. He was always very good with ds With no boundary stomps. Im grateful for it. I have expressed it.
If you ask my mom, she will say she practically raised ds. But shes a narc and exaggerates her role beyond too much. Mostly because i loved meeting my dad, she wasnt TO/CO. Yet, we used to get in fights over her controlling entitlement and dad would be either neutral or tell me 'not to talk to your mother this way'.
Current issue: We moved states and my mom& sis made a visit 2 months ago and my dad hasnt met ds for around5 months. They planned to visit us next month.
In her usual style, my mom calls me up to say, 'we are coming on 11th sept weekend.'. I said 'wait let me check with dh and his parents because i think they have a function planned'. She says shes sitting at her computer to book the tickets so i have to tell her right then. I shut that down. It turned out i was right and my parents booked flights for the next weekend. I had had enough of my moms entitlement. So i sent the following texts and got a confirmation that my dad is my moms enabler. Or is he? Is he justified in being upset?
So, finally, my question is, where do i go from here re: my dad? Am I being ungrateful for all he's done for me and DS? what do i owe my dad for his help? I was rude in my reply I just dont know... Please help.
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If you ask my mom, she will say she practically raised ds. But shes a narc and exaggerates her role beyond too much. Mostly because i loved meeting my dad, she wasnt TO/CO. Yet, we used to get in fights over her controlling entitlement and dad would be either neutral or tell me 'not to talk to your mother this way'.
Current issue: We moved states and my mom& sis made a visit 2 months ago and my dad hasnt met ds for around5 months. They planned to visit us next month.
In her usual style, my mom calls me up to say, 'we are coming on 11th sept weekend.'. I said 'wait let me check with dh and his parents because i think they have a function planned'. She says shes sitting at her computer to book the tickets so i have to tell her right then. I shut that down. It turned out i was right and my parents booked flights for the next weekend. I had had enough of my moms entitlement. So i sent the following texts and got a confirmation that my dad is my moms enabler. Or is he? Is he justified in being upset?
So, finally, my question is, where do i go from here re: my dad? Am I being ungrateful for all he's done for me and DS? what do i owe my dad for his help? I was rude in my reply I just dont know... Please help.
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