I got some startling health news this past Thursday and Friday. I'm 34, just delivered baby #4 two weeks ago (he was 4 weeks early), generally speaking, am pretty healthy. I've lost 170lbs through hard work and gastric bypass.
But, my heart is slowing down on its own. I was told by the cardiologist that I will need a pacemaker, and soon! My heart beats 34 beats per minute, should be between 60-100.
So, I've needed a little extra help with the kids for all these appointments and ER trips and just maintaining my household when dealing with fatigue and shortness of breath. Our church family has been amazing with helping me and my husband with childcare and providing meals! When they can't help, I've resorted to asking my mom. Huge mistake!
She knows all about what's going on. All of a sudden, to her, this makes sense as to why my attitude has changed and why I've shut down the info train with her and my grandmother. They tell anyone who will listen about everyone in our family. And, that is the reason I've shut them out. How does being sick explain my need for privacy or space from them?
She has repeatedly told me in the last 2 days, that she wants the old me back (you know, the me who lays flat and jumps at their commands for information). And no wonder I've been such a bitch to them... it's just because I am not feeling well.
Yeah, ok. Aside from shutting the info train down, yet again, how do I reply to all of this?
My dh is ticked off with her and how she treats me. Yet, I defend her. Why? I'm so afraid to cause issues. I've shut down, never confronted her about the issues. Help!
But, my heart is slowing down on its own. I was told by the cardiologist that I will need a pacemaker, and soon! My heart beats 34 beats per minute, should be between 60-100.
So, I've needed a little extra help with the kids for all these appointments and ER trips and just maintaining my household when dealing with fatigue and shortness of breath. Our church family has been amazing with helping me and my husband with childcare and providing meals! When they can't help, I've resorted to asking my mom. Huge mistake!
She knows all about what's going on. All of a sudden, to her, this makes sense as to why my attitude has changed and why I've shut down the info train with her and my grandmother. They tell anyone who will listen about everyone in our family. And, that is the reason I've shut them out. How does being sick explain my need for privacy or space from them?
She has repeatedly told me in the last 2 days, that she wants the old me back (you know, the me who lays flat and jumps at their commands for information). And no wonder I've been such a bitch to them... it's just because I am not feeling well.
Yeah, ok. Aside from shutting the info train down, yet again, how do I reply to all of this?
My dh is ticked off with her and how she treats me. Yet, I defend her. Why? I'm so afraid to cause issues. I've shut down, never confronted her about the issues. Help!