"*smh* just what i was missing in my life. I want a diploma in my hand not an ultrasound, I don't want to see that."
And that is exactly what my SOs mother said. VENT! We barely told his mom today that we were expecting and yes I was offended. I find that rude for various reasons! I have been over the clouds today because we found out its a GIRL! My son is going to have a little sister!!! 😍💟 and way to ruin my happy parade! Me and SO have like 1+ year left of school to get our degrees so it's not like we're in high school.... I'm 24 and he's 26!
We're not kids! And we do have jobs. His is better than mine and makes almost double of what I make but I'm still getting bank at my job for myself and my son it is plenty extra! So what's her problem. For an hour all she said is that basically that he ruined his life because he's having a kid. Giving me a hint that I ruined his life. Very clearly! And how much she didn't want to see that ultrasound. That's so rude to me!!!
So backstory, him and his mom have always lived together. She's a single mom and has always been her whole life. She cleans hotel rooms and does work very hard and always has. They both used to live in a house with 1 drug addict brother of his. Out of her 3 sons, my SO is the only one with his head right and very wise man that is beyond his years. His brothers are all messed up. My SO got a very very good job where he started making a incredibly good salary 4 years ago from where he was working before. Ever since I meet him he always said that he's going to get his mom out of that house in the hood and buy a new home in a good neighborhood. And that is exactly what he did over a year ago. A very nice house!
So they both live together. I get it whatever I don't care, she has nobody and doesn't make a lot to provide for herself or get herself and apartment, and it's a waste for my SO to give her money for a place to live. So my SO pays for rent, light, water, cell bill, cable, car insurance, car payment, and everything by himself and all SO asks from his mom is $300 a month for everything!!!! That's so cheap and she's still complains all the time about it and makes sure to rub it in his face. $300 a month for all that in a beautiful house ain't shit!
Ok now back to the story... we have been trying to move in together before I got pregnant. So the talk is nothing new to us. He has been waiting to move with him for so long. But life has been tough for both going through what is called life. So now we really want to move right about this month. And his mom was like... "so where is she going to live????" And SO was like "here!" HER: "ok so what about me??? Do I have to get an apartment now???? Or what?" HIM: "here! That is why I bought a house with extra rooms" and she was just talking shit.
It got me pissed. Like get over yourself you should be thankful that we are all healthy and able to afford what we can. And a new baby GIRL is on the way. I didn't want to hear, "i didn't want another grandchild" seriously, b-word. The way my hormones are set up! If I go over I will be a smart ass idc. Or "well its too late now, a baby is already there, what can I do" ugh she gets me really angry. How about be respectful!!! You cannot do anything!! We didn't ask you to do anything! We're just telling you! And I'm venting here because it really hurt my feelings and I was too fired up to vent about it with SO... she really hurt my feelings, how do you say stuff like that!!
And that is exactly what my SOs mother said. VENT! We barely told his mom today that we were expecting and yes I was offended. I find that rude for various reasons! I have been over the clouds today because we found out its a GIRL! My son is going to have a little sister!!! 😍💟 and way to ruin my happy parade! Me and SO have like 1+ year left of school to get our degrees so it's not like we're in high school.... I'm 24 and he's 26!
We're not kids! And we do have jobs. His is better than mine and makes almost double of what I make but I'm still getting bank at my job for myself and my son it is plenty extra! So what's her problem. For an hour all she said is that basically that he ruined his life because he's having a kid. Giving me a hint that I ruined his life. Very clearly! And how much she didn't want to see that ultrasound. That's so rude to me!!!
So backstory, him and his mom have always lived together. She's a single mom and has always been her whole life. She cleans hotel rooms and does work very hard and always has. They both used to live in a house with 1 drug addict brother of his. Out of her 3 sons, my SO is the only one with his head right and very wise man that is beyond his years. His brothers are all messed up. My SO got a very very good job where he started making a incredibly good salary 4 years ago from where he was working before. Ever since I meet him he always said that he's going to get his mom out of that house in the hood and buy a new home in a good neighborhood. And that is exactly what he did over a year ago. A very nice house!
So they both live together. I get it whatever I don't care, she has nobody and doesn't make a lot to provide for herself or get herself and apartment, and it's a waste for my SO to give her money for a place to live. So my SO pays for rent, light, water, cell bill, cable, car insurance, car payment, and everything by himself and all SO asks from his mom is $300 a month for everything!!!! That's so cheap and she's still complains all the time about it and makes sure to rub it in his face. $300 a month for all that in a beautiful house ain't shit!
Ok now back to the story... we have been trying to move in together before I got pregnant. So the talk is nothing new to us. He has been waiting to move with him for so long. But life has been tough for both going through what is called life. So now we really want to move right about this month. And his mom was like... "so where is she going to live????" And SO was like "here!" HER: "ok so what about me??? Do I have to get an apartment now???? Or what?" HIM: "here! That is why I bought a house with extra rooms" and she was just talking shit.
It got me pissed. Like get over yourself you should be thankful that we are all healthy and able to afford what we can. And a new baby GIRL is on the way. I didn't want to hear, "i didn't want another grandchild" seriously, b-word. The way my hormones are set up! If I go over I will be a smart ass idc. Or "well its too late now, a baby is already there, what can I do" ugh she gets me really angry. How about be respectful!!! You cannot do anything!! We didn't ask you to do anything! We're just telling you! And I'm venting here because it really hurt my feelings and I was too fired up to vent about it with SO... she really hurt my feelings, how do you say stuff like that!!