This is a strange situation. My last baby was born in 2014 and for some reason after I had him my tolerance for my MIL went down. She and my DH would always hold hands around me and he would have her arm around her on the couch while her head was on his shoulder. They would cut his bday cake together and she would feed him a piece. All things I let slide but really wasn't a big fan of. She's older 70s and not in the best health and so I kind of looked the other way bc of that. When my baby was first born and my family was over visiting and his parents also showed up and the hand holding commenced.... So I lost after that day and told him it irks me and I'd rather he just not do that around my family and friends and me if he could figure out how. Its embarrassing bc I see people stare at them.
So it ended up being an epic blow out Bc he told her what I said and she turned it into a whole thing about my family gossiping about her. We've never been the same since then. They have stopped holding hands in front of me.
So my next baby is due next week. My DH went to visit my MIL yesterday came home and told me I shouldn't be irrational this time around and cause issues after the baby. That his family doesn't feel super comfortable coming over bc I made them feel uncomfortable last time bc of our fight and even before that bc I was cold...(which was bc I was quiet, I was in pain had stitches and hemmroids, bloody nipples, and they came over every other day to hold the baby, meanwhile I'm sitting in a donut and can't put my feet up bc they are super formal).
He also said his mom feels disrespected by my family bc we don't include her in family functions? Where does this stuff come from? Their extended family doesn't include my mom or me even...he told me if my family were nicer to her he would be nicer to them and not just due the bare minimum required. What does that even mean? We live in the same state as his parents who we see all the time, mine are 5 hours away. My mom comes to visit once in a while for me and bc my grandma lives in the same city. What does he want from my family?
It was just this weird situation where he came home with grievances from his mom.
I got really upset bc I'm emotional and getting ready for my next baby. My mom and sister are visiting and I think it started there, my inlaws want my mom to pay a visit to my mil, who's older and who lives an hour away, after driving five hours to come see me and grandma for the weekend.
Sorry my post is all over the place. I just need help. This stuff is ongoing and I can't find the words to defend myself with DH or even articulate how upset I am.
So it ended up being an epic blow out Bc he told her what I said and she turned it into a whole thing about my family gossiping about her. We've never been the same since then. They have stopped holding hands in front of me.
So my next baby is due next week. My DH went to visit my MIL yesterday came home and told me I shouldn't be irrational this time around and cause issues after the baby. That his family doesn't feel super comfortable coming over bc I made them feel uncomfortable last time bc of our fight and even before that bc I was cold...(which was bc I was quiet, I was in pain had stitches and hemmroids, bloody nipples, and they came over every other day to hold the baby, meanwhile I'm sitting in a donut and can't put my feet up bc they are super formal).
He also said his mom feels disrespected by my family bc we don't include her in family functions? Where does this stuff come from? Their extended family doesn't include my mom or me even...he told me if my family were nicer to her he would be nicer to them and not just due the bare minimum required. What does that even mean? We live in the same state as his parents who we see all the time, mine are 5 hours away. My mom comes to visit once in a while for me and bc my grandma lives in the same city. What does he want from my family?
It was just this weird situation where he came home with grievances from his mom.
I got really upset bc I'm emotional and getting ready for my next baby. My mom and sister are visiting and I think it started there, my inlaws want my mom to pay a visit to my mil, who's older and who lives an hour away, after driving five hours to come see me and grandma for the weekend.
Sorry my post is all over the place. I just need help. This stuff is ongoing and I can't find the words to defend myself with DH or even articulate how upset I am.