Hi all, I'm an old member, but I forgot my username/password etc.
My DD is 3. My EDand SD are out of the picture and have been since DD was 1. My ILs which includes MIL and SFIL are sort of distant for a reason. They got too pushy when DD was younger so I backed them up. We've found a nice medium. DD doesn't do a lot of overnights, but this Saturday she asked if she could go to their house. I called them, and they were excited for her to sleepover.
Backstory: DD throws huge fits about clothes. It's something we're working on, and have been for a while. But remember, she's THREE.
So MIL brings DD home, and the first thing out of her mouth is 'she has just been wild, it took me over an hour to get her clothes changed!'. To which I replied, yep, she does that sometimes, we're working on it. She then proceeded to say 'she gets away with all of this stuff because she's petted, and you all let her do whatever she wants.' Hold up. Did she just say that to me?! And in front of DD no less. I tell her in a calm tone that I don't appreciate the critiquing of my parenting skills. But then it gets worse. She says 'I told her, if you can't act any better than this then you won't get to stay at my house anymore!'. So...at this point I'm trying not to loose my shit in front of my daughter so I tell her I think it's time for her to go. She leaves uneventfully.
Don't think this is over. It isn't by a long shot. I'm sort of surprised because I thought we worked all this nonsense out a couple of years back. But I guess not. I'm trying to get myself calmed down enough to call her. I'm thinking my main points will be: DO NOT EVER talk about my child, and or parenting style, DO NOT ever threaten to take away my daughters ability to spend time with someone simply because she acted like a toddler. I fully intend to tell her overnights are off the table for a very long time, if ever again. They don't spend a lot of time with them, but DD typically tends to really enjoy it. That is going to be gone.
Anything else I should add? Thanks ladies!
My DD is 3. My EDand SD are out of the picture and have been since DD was 1. My ILs which includes MIL and SFIL are sort of distant for a reason. They got too pushy when DD was younger so I backed them up. We've found a nice medium. DD doesn't do a lot of overnights, but this Saturday she asked if she could go to their house. I called them, and they were excited for her to sleepover.
Backstory: DD throws huge fits about clothes. It's something we're working on, and have been for a while. But remember, she's THREE.
So MIL brings DD home, and the first thing out of her mouth is 'she has just been wild, it took me over an hour to get her clothes changed!'. To which I replied, yep, she does that sometimes, we're working on it. She then proceeded to say 'she gets away with all of this stuff because she's petted, and you all let her do whatever she wants.' Hold up. Did she just say that to me?! And in front of DD no less. I tell her in a calm tone that I don't appreciate the critiquing of my parenting skills. But then it gets worse. She says 'I told her, if you can't act any better than this then you won't get to stay at my house anymore!'. So...at this point I'm trying not to loose my shit in front of my daughter so I tell her I think it's time for her to go. She leaves uneventfully.
Don't think this is over. It isn't by a long shot. I'm sort of surprised because I thought we worked all this nonsense out a couple of years back. But I guess not. I'm trying to get myself calmed down enough to call her. I'm thinking my main points will be: DO NOT EVER talk about my child, and or parenting style, DO NOT ever threaten to take away my daughters ability to spend time with someone simply because she acted like a toddler. I fully intend to tell her overnights are off the table for a very long time, if ever again. They don't spend a lot of time with them, but DD typically tends to really enjoy it. That is going to be gone.
Anything else I should add? Thanks ladies!