FTM here. Just had a baby in July! I'm going back to work after being on maternity leave for 13 weeks in a few days.
Every time I take baby to an event- (party/wedding/baby shower) my MIL asks to hold the baby- each time I tell her no, baby hasn't had her shots.. she gets really pouty, talks about me behind my back and claims that she has her shots so that I should let her hold baby. I baby wear...and when baby gets fussy.. I take her out, change her and feed her.. she then thinks it's ok to ask again, this time with her arms out.
Well, I've gotten through a few awkward social gatherings by saying no... but now baby has her shots and we have another party and her christening coming up.
I still would like to keep baby close to me, especially in a new environment since she can be easily overwhelmed. If she's upset when someone else holds her- it's going to take that much more to calm her down. Also-germs!!!!!
I tell the inlaws they can come over (when they call and ask if it's a good time) to hold the baby. Sometimes they randomly stop by and DH let's them in.. and they all feel entitled to hold the baby 24/7 and it's like I don't exist...it overwhelms her.. and she didn't settle down until 1am one night!! Luckily breastfeeding allows me to take the baby and hide in her nursery to give me a break from them..
How do I go about making it known that I'm her mom, I hold her... and they can hold her only when I offer? Without sounding too mean. No one should be entitled to my daughter besides me and DH. And how about... you should probably say "hi" to the baby's mama before trying to grab her kid. That's my biggest pet peeve.
The in laws are just super overwhelming.. let's just say the MIL tried to pick out the baby's costume.. a baby bunny and was about to order it (I shut that down..) picked out a thanksgiving outfit (I told her I got one already but maybe baby can use her outfit as pajamas) hope they don't even think about her Christmas outfit! They live out of state but they came to visit for 3 months when baby was born.. (2 weeks before my due date) luckily BIL lives up the street so they stayed with them...but it's just way too much. We need our space.
just a stressed mama! Any advice?
Every time I take baby to an event- (party/wedding/baby shower) my MIL asks to hold the baby- each time I tell her no, baby hasn't had her shots.. she gets really pouty, talks about me behind my back and claims that she has her shots so that I should let her hold baby. I baby wear...and when baby gets fussy.. I take her out, change her and feed her.. she then thinks it's ok to ask again, this time with her arms out.
Well, I've gotten through a few awkward social gatherings by saying no... but now baby has her shots and we have another party and her christening coming up.
I still would like to keep baby close to me, especially in a new environment since she can be easily overwhelmed. If she's upset when someone else holds her- it's going to take that much more to calm her down. Also-germs!!!!!
I tell the inlaws they can come over (when they call and ask if it's a good time) to hold the baby. Sometimes they randomly stop by and DH let's them in.. and they all feel entitled to hold the baby 24/7 and it's like I don't exist...it overwhelms her.. and she didn't settle down until 1am one night!! Luckily breastfeeding allows me to take the baby and hide in her nursery to give me a break from them..
How do I go about making it known that I'm her mom, I hold her... and they can hold her only when I offer? Without sounding too mean. No one should be entitled to my daughter besides me and DH. And how about... you should probably say "hi" to the baby's mama before trying to grab her kid. That's my biggest pet peeve.
The in laws are just super overwhelming.. let's just say the MIL tried to pick out the baby's costume.. a baby bunny and was about to order it (I shut that down..) picked out a thanksgiving outfit (I told her I got one already but maybe baby can use her outfit as pajamas) hope they don't even think about her Christmas outfit! They live out of state but they came to visit for 3 months when baby was born.. (2 weeks before my due date) luckily BIL lives up the street so they stayed with them...but it's just way too much. We need our space.
just a stressed mama! Any advice?