My Mom

I am 9 weeks 6 days pregnant. My mom figured it out Saturday. She said that my boobs and skin gave it away. I asked her not to tell anyone because my DH and I were waiting until I was 12 weeks before we announced. Yesterday, I woke up to tons of congrats on facebook. My mom had posted that she was going to be a grandma. I asked her to delete the post. She told me no she can post what she wants. She then started thanking people who were congratulating her and telling them she can't wait unti her baby arrived. I unfriended and blocked her. Meawhile, she was texting me baby names for "her baby" and nursery ideas. I just ignored the texts.

Last night she showed up at our apt at 9:30 because "you were obviouslytoo busy doing nothing to answer my calls and texts" I tried to tell her we were going to bed but she pushed her way in. First she told me that I looked like absolute shit and she's concerned that I will become one of those fat pregnant woman.(My weight has aways been an issue with her. I'm naturally thin but I was a dancer as a child and she micromanaged everything that I ate) Then she went into what will eventually be the nursery and started measuring it so she will know where the furniture for her baby will fit. My DH told her not to worry about because we plan on decorating. She said that was nonsense, just look at the crap job we did in the rest of the apt and her bab wouldn't have a room like that. I finally just told her to leave because I was exhausted and needed to sleep. She told me that I was being inconsiderate to her feelings and maybe if I didn't drive so far to see those people then I wouldn't be tired. Those people are my DH's parents. We drive a half an hour each way every Sunday to have lunch with them. They live an hour away and we meet at a place in the middle.

 Normally I can just blow her off but at this moment, I go between wanting to cry and wanting to punch her. She hasn't realized that i unfriended and blocked her yet. I'm worried about how she will react to that. The big one is, my MIL will be with us during my labor and birth. She will be moving in with us a few weeks before my due date. I don;t want my mom anywhere near me. She will make it all about her. 

I'm at a loss to what to do with her. DH is ready to cut her out completely. I feel like we canlt do that though because she is my mom. I just want to enjoy my pregnancy with no drama from her