some background
Hubby and I have dated since we were 13/14 our parents have been good friends since we were like 6/7 and gone to dinner together weekly forever. We have been married 5 years we went thru fertility treatment to get pregnant we moved a half hour south so we weren't so close and they decided they wanted to be closer so they sold their house that dh's grandpa built that fil grew up in so they could move closer to us and their other son bc 30 mins wasn't close enough apparently so now they are about 5 mins away. They seem to think we should stop by and sit and chat with them all the time but we have our own lives the world doesn't revolve around them.
Mil is very insecure and lets her brow beating husband walk all over her like she is a door mat. I've tried to talk to her about it before and she just says things like well that's what he likes or women should be men's servants, uh hello bs!! She has no backbone at all. Her go to response for anything and everything is laughing bc she doesn't know how to actually communicate. Her punctuation and pronunciation is horrific, if there is a way to mess a word up I bet you anything she will find it.
She is majorly obsessed with knowing how my doctor appointments go which are none of her damn business. She stalks me I swear bc I don't tell her when my appointments are and neither does my dh he hardly talks to her (but dh works with his dad and brother so when he leaves early to go to an appointment with me I'm sure that's how she knows) but every time after I leave the doctor she texts me within about 15 mins normally asking how it went to which I say good everything is good (doctor doesn't really say much more than that anyway) and then she responds well what did the doctor say...the first time she did this I responded with everything is good then she asks is everything on track (wth do you think everything is good means?) and then I didn't answer so she called and asked me again and I said all the doctor says is everything is good. Now I don't respond after the first text sometimes I don't respond at all and then she calls and if I don't answer she calls dh. For one its not her damn business if I don't want to tell her bc she is the biggest freaking gossip queen on earth and every single one of her friends would know within minutes. Secondly I'm not lying the doctor doesn't say anything just everything looks good see you x amount of weeks. So about 2 weeks ago her and fil wanted to come over to see us bc they said they hadn't seen me in awhile and we let them and they just stare at me I'm like what the f I'm not a picture or something and they ask about 5 times each how are you. Well let me see the answer isn't different than the last time you asked a few minutes ago. They asked when my appointments are I said idk I schedule them when I go. Oh well let us know, um no wth do you need to know when my appointments are? I just ignored them and talked to my puppy. They asked so what's the doctor say I said everything is good. Well what do they say are you going to go early...idk I just told you all they say is all looks good...well what do they think is she coming early how many weeks...they don't say...well how is she measuring how tall is she...idk they don't measure (all they take is my fundal height so no way of knowing how long baby is other than regular weekly estimates) well is she big, again idk (I want to say yes they put a scale up my vagina and weigh the baby). This just goes on and on and my response is always all is good idk anything else and they always beg for more info driving me up a wall. Last night my bil's fiancé found a wedding dress and she wanted to show it to us and it's a few mins from my house so I went after work and it was beautiful well mil was there and I did not sit by her purposefully and did not really look at her or anything and I stand up to leave bc I have milk and lettuce in the car and she starts walking over to me and doesn't say hi just very awkwardly (this is normal for her) just says those are the same shoes so and so's daughter is wearing bc her feet are swelling being pregnant and that's what they told her at work she should wear and so and so and I went to the mall last night and so and so went into xyz store and got her some but they were still too tight around the top. Oh and you know the daughter has legs like her mothers so I'm sure she swells easy. I'm just like yea ok I got to go cya and I said bye the bride and left I pretty much bolted bc I knew she would follow me to my car and try to gossip more. I could really care less about her friends daughters shoe issue. This is just my mil though she always has someone to talk about to make fun of or she always always always has her phone glued to her and wants to show you pictures of every Tom dick and Harry's kids from every county around and I could care less bc I have no clue who they are. On that note she saves everything every picture I send her and she shows it to people I caught her showing a pic of me at so many weeks pregnant to her friends and I was like wtf that's creepy why do you have my pic saved and why are you showing people.
She has no concept of listening to what I want I tell her something and she doesn't listen she asks again or I have to tell her again and she just laughs about it. This really scares me bc she will be watching our baby girl 2days a week. My dh doesn't feel that she would actually harm the baby but that it's not right for us to tell her she can't watch her now when we told her awhile ago she could. I know not yet bc baby will be so little but scares me to death that she will feed her crap that we don't want her to have even if told not to she just doesn't think any things a big deal. She watched my sisters son for a few hours when we were at a wedding and when we came back she hadn't eaten bc she didn't know how to have something and watch him mind you he was 15 months old. She is so excited about me breastfeeding it's creepy. I talk about it and she like moans just saying how good it is. I am not comfortable in front of her and would certainly not nurse without a cover in front of her but I think she is expecting that it's so strange.
We have tried to talk to her and she just laughs it off like it's not big deal I don't know how to get through to her. Please mommas help! I have a backbone and am not afraid of telling her no but she just doesn't stop and plays it off like she forgot or I never told her.
Hubby and I have dated since we were 13/14 our parents have been good friends since we were like 6/7 and gone to dinner together weekly forever. We have been married 5 years we went thru fertility treatment to get pregnant we moved a half hour south so we weren't so close and they decided they wanted to be closer so they sold their house that dh's grandpa built that fil grew up in so they could move closer to us and their other son bc 30 mins wasn't close enough apparently so now they are about 5 mins away. They seem to think we should stop by and sit and chat with them all the time but we have our own lives the world doesn't revolve around them.
Mil is very insecure and lets her brow beating husband walk all over her like she is a door mat. I've tried to talk to her about it before and she just says things like well that's what he likes or women should be men's servants, uh hello bs!! She has no backbone at all. Her go to response for anything and everything is laughing bc she doesn't know how to actually communicate. Her punctuation and pronunciation is horrific, if there is a way to mess a word up I bet you anything she will find it.
She is majorly obsessed with knowing how my doctor appointments go which are none of her damn business. She stalks me I swear bc I don't tell her when my appointments are and neither does my dh he hardly talks to her (but dh works with his dad and brother so when he leaves early to go to an appointment with me I'm sure that's how she knows) but every time after I leave the doctor she texts me within about 15 mins normally asking how it went to which I say good everything is good (doctor doesn't really say much more than that anyway) and then she responds well what did the doctor say...the first time she did this I responded with everything is good then she asks is everything on track (wth do you think everything is good means?) and then I didn't answer so she called and asked me again and I said all the doctor says is everything is good. Now I don't respond after the first text sometimes I don't respond at all and then she calls and if I don't answer she calls dh. For one its not her damn business if I don't want to tell her bc she is the biggest freaking gossip queen on earth and every single one of her friends would know within minutes. Secondly I'm not lying the doctor doesn't say anything just everything looks good see you x amount of weeks. So about 2 weeks ago her and fil wanted to come over to see us bc they said they hadn't seen me in awhile and we let them and they just stare at me I'm like what the f I'm not a picture or something and they ask about 5 times each how are you. Well let me see the answer isn't different than the last time you asked a few minutes ago. They asked when my appointments are I said idk I schedule them when I go. Oh well let us know, um no wth do you need to know when my appointments are? I just ignored them and talked to my puppy. They asked so what's the doctor say I said everything is good. Well what do they say are you going to go early...idk I just told you all they say is all looks good...well what do they think is she coming early how many weeks...they don't say...well how is she measuring how tall is she...idk they don't measure (all they take is my fundal height so no way of knowing how long baby is other than regular weekly estimates) well is she big, again idk (I want to say yes they put a scale up my vagina and weigh the baby). This just goes on and on and my response is always all is good idk anything else and they always beg for more info driving me up a wall. Last night my bil's fiancé found a wedding dress and she wanted to show it to us and it's a few mins from my house so I went after work and it was beautiful well mil was there and I did not sit by her purposefully and did not really look at her or anything and I stand up to leave bc I have milk and lettuce in the car and she starts walking over to me and doesn't say hi just very awkwardly (this is normal for her) just says those are the same shoes so and so's daughter is wearing bc her feet are swelling being pregnant and that's what they told her at work she should wear and so and so and I went to the mall last night and so and so went into xyz store and got her some but they were still too tight around the top. Oh and you know the daughter has legs like her mothers so I'm sure she swells easy. I'm just like yea ok I got to go cya and I said bye the bride and left I pretty much bolted bc I knew she would follow me to my car and try to gossip more. I could really care less about her friends daughters shoe issue. This is just my mil though she always has someone to talk about to make fun of or she always always always has her phone glued to her and wants to show you pictures of every Tom dick and Harry's kids from every county around and I could care less bc I have no clue who they are. On that note she saves everything every picture I send her and she shows it to people I caught her showing a pic of me at so many weeks pregnant to her friends and I was like wtf that's creepy why do you have my pic saved and why are you showing people.
She has no concept of listening to what I want I tell her something and she doesn't listen she asks again or I have to tell her again and she just laughs about it. This really scares me bc she will be watching our baby girl 2days a week. My dh doesn't feel that she would actually harm the baby but that it's not right for us to tell her she can't watch her now when we told her awhile ago she could. I know not yet bc baby will be so little but scares me to death that she will feed her crap that we don't want her to have even if told not to she just doesn't think any things a big deal. She watched my sisters son for a few hours when we were at a wedding and when we came back she hadn't eaten bc she didn't know how to have something and watch him mind you he was 15 months old. She is so excited about me breastfeeding it's creepy. I talk about it and she like moans just saying how good it is. I am not comfortable in front of her and would certainly not nurse without a cover in front of her but I think she is expecting that it's so strange.
We have tried to talk to her and she just laughs it off like it's not big deal I don't know how to get through to her. Please mommas help! I have a backbone and am not afraid of telling her no but she just doesn't stop and plays it off like she forgot or I never told her.