Ok so here's some back story my MIL lost her youngest son (33) and retired last summer. She lives 1200 miles away. Well since then she has been here soo much oct-dec, jan-April, now August and September. The kids went up there to visit in July she brought them back August 4th and was supposed to go back by the time school started August 24th. My mom came down for the baby shower and was going to spend some time wth me and helping out til the baby got here.
Well MIL decided to stay saying I don't want to go back and then the baby comes. Well I've been on bed rest for 3weeks and have both mothers here. I can not take it anymore. My mom had at least done all the housework and helps take care of the kids. His mom sits in one spot on the couch (which is ruined now) watching tv all damn day) doesn't help around the house. May buy groceries every once and a while but that is it cause she is still supporting her 40 year old daughter and 23 year old grandson that live in her house. If I try to sit in the living room or watch tv or anything I better not get up cause the TV will be changed. The kids can't watch their shows. She watches my mom clean around her. Even my 10 year old and 7 year old see it. I've never said anything around them and they have each on different occasions said "all grandma does is sit there"
I've told DH I can not do it anymore. I wasn't asked if she could stay this long. I told him a want everyone out a week after baby is born. My mom fully understands. Now I have an induction date of the 22nd still no talk about booking a flight back one week after is just a little over two weeks away. I want to just pack up and leave take my two older kids and the newborn if she isn't gone. I don't know what to do anymore but I'm going to friggin lose it. When I bitch to him I get well your mom is here. She has been here a couple weeks and has been a big help. His mom has been here 8 out of the last 10 months!!!!!!! I'm so tired of biting my tounge playing nice and feeling trapped in my room at my own house. How can I fix this without coming off as the biggest bitch in the world.
Well MIL decided to stay saying I don't want to go back and then the baby comes. Well I've been on bed rest for 3weeks and have both mothers here. I can not take it anymore. My mom had at least done all the housework and helps take care of the kids. His mom sits in one spot on the couch (which is ruined now) watching tv all damn day) doesn't help around the house. May buy groceries every once and a while but that is it cause she is still supporting her 40 year old daughter and 23 year old grandson that live in her house. If I try to sit in the living room or watch tv or anything I better not get up cause the TV will be changed. The kids can't watch their shows. She watches my mom clean around her. Even my 10 year old and 7 year old see it. I've never said anything around them and they have each on different occasions said "all grandma does is sit there"
I've told DH I can not do it anymore. I wasn't asked if she could stay this long. I told him a want everyone out a week after baby is born. My mom fully understands. Now I have an induction date of the 22nd still no talk about booking a flight back one week after is just a little over two weeks away. I want to just pack up and leave take my two older kids and the newborn if she isn't gone. I don't know what to do anymore but I'm going to friggin lose it. When I bitch to him I get well your mom is here. She has been here a couple weeks and has been a big help. His mom has been here 8 out of the last 10 months!!!!!!! I'm so tired of biting my tounge playing nice and feeling trapped in my room at my own house. How can I fix this without coming off as the biggest bitch in the world.