Hey Dwillers, I debated about coming back to post because last time included some contraversal topics and it didn't feel right. Background contains triggers** Basically, we CO MIL a little over a year ago. She showed her crazy leading up to and during our wedding, and even more during my pregnancy, birth, and PP period. She wanted to be mommy and when we tried to implement boundries as our own family unit she freaked out. Showed up at our house and forced her way inside. Assaulted my DH and kicked me as well before we were able to get her out and call the cops for her removal. We moved to our new state and somehow a lot has happened. There were a few incidences including one in which we realized my DH was depressed and we There have been other BS incidences since then but I don't want this to be a novel.. I can give those to you in comments if you want noms.
On to SIL: we kept a casual relationship with her. She is 22 and still lives with PIL and they also own her hair salon. DH has accepted that his parents are crazy and won't be in our lives, but I think he really thought him and his sister could maintain a relationship. So Her and her BF came down for a visit this weekend. I know I failed in letting them stay here. But they agreed to pay for groceries so we could all cook and just relax at the house and watch football. So they arrived on Friday and were set to leave tonight. Plus I work at a very busy hospital and was on call all weekend, and my DH has weekends off, so he got to babysit everyone.
First Incident- So my DH is about to run to the store for something, SIL BF is going with him and SIL says she wants to take DH for a walk on his trike. I say, cool, I will stay and go with you SIL. DH repeats again, "so your staying and giong with them?" I say yes. We all start finding our shoes and before I know it, she is outside with DS. I'm still getting shoes on and tell DH that she better not take off with him. He is sure she won't. We walk outside and where is SIL? 30 yards away, with my kid and still walking. DH ran to her and asked her WTF she was doing and that she left without me. I caught up and she says she forgot.
THE incident- So DH had to work Monday (Just got a promotion!) and I get called in. I work in trauma so I have to be at work within twenty minutes of the page. So I (stupidly, i know) agree to leave DS with them and ask them to stick around the house with him until I'm out. They had mentioned wanting to take hiim to a church (we aren't religious) the day before and we said no. I also took the carseat in case. So I get home from work, and me, DS, SIL, and SIL BF decide to run to the store for a few things for dinner. I'm driving and DS is in the back and SIL gives him her phone to play with. I'm not gonna lie, my kid is increadibly tech saavy and loves making movies and watching them. So he plays a movie on her phone and its her coaching him to say "hi grandma!" and he says it. Then he repeats it out loud in the car and she grabbed her phone. It took a minute for me to comprehend and I was silend. I read about people freezing in these situations and now I know exactly what they mean! it was awful. We get home and I call DH to filll him in and he leaves work. I was in my bathroom trying to build myself up because I knew I needed to say something! I went outside to sit with them and my DS starts pointing at SILBF and says "grandpa". You guys, I had fucking had it... that was all I needed....
me: what did he just say? grandpa?
SILBF: he said dampa, he has been calling me that all weekend, its weird
me: no... he calls you (SILBF name) or uncle.
SIL: no, he has been! he even said it in the car!
me (in calm, stone cold bitch voice): no, he said grandma, which is reaaaaally weird because he doesn't call anyone that. (and I might have glared at her)
SIL: I'm sorry, I just made a little movie, I haven't even sent it yet!
me: I don't care if you have sent it or not. You deliberitely disrespected us. We let you into our home and trusted you with our son. Your brother is on his way home to deal with you, I have nothing else to say to you.
me (to SILBF): So was he really calling you that or was that video for both MIL and FIL? (sidenote-> FIL is her enabler and also CO)
silence...... then they went upstairs and packed and started to walk out. As she walked out I asked SIL why she couldn't even respect her brother enough to talk to him. He was going to be so hurt by her betrayal and the least she could do is not be a coward. She said she would call him from home. DH caught them in the driveway and just asked her why? thats all he wanted to know.. apparently she was crying hysterically and could only say she was sorry.
I'm gonna submit and finish in comments so I do not lose this.