So...this might be a little long, but I want to get all the back story in there...for a better understanding of the situation.
My Mom died 3 years ago this October. My Dad met someone online a year after her death. They talked for a month...then he announced to us {my hubs & me} that they were getting married. They knew each other for 7 months total before their wedding day. That may not be quick to some...but it seemed quick to us.
This is her 4th marriage. She had a 17 year old son that she adopted, but dumped at Job Corps to get rid of him, before moving into my parents home.
She has 2 living biological sons, that one she has not had contact with in 10 years.
I have an older sister, who is mentally unstable...and none of us have had contact with her, or her kids...since before my Mom died {for me}, and right after my other older sister died {9 mths after my Mom}.
There have been accusations of child molestation against 2 of new wife's ex husbands, she told us that her son stopped talking to her because of his wife, and that her last husband was controlling & abusive. He died of cancer couple years ago.
Since marrying my father, they have blown through over $100,000 on absurd things.
Things have not been adding up for us, and we did some digging. We {hubs & I} talked to her estranged son earlier this week. Turns out she has lied about everything to us, which we have found out along the way, and the woman is basically a sociopath.
We are seeking some professional counseling on the matter, because we are not sure how to proceed. We do not feel comfortable with her being in our childrens lives {currently pregnant with #2}, but don't want to take away the only grandchildren my father has access to. The repercussions for allowing only my dad to see them, and not her...we are honestly afraid of what she might do.
I guess I am wondering, if anyone has had similar situations? My Dad is 'in love with his soulmate'. He is clouded by love, and not seeing the distruction that is happening. Talking to just him about the situation is out.
My Mom died 3 years ago this October. My Dad met someone online a year after her death. They talked for a month...then he announced to us {my hubs & me} that they were getting married. They knew each other for 7 months total before their wedding day. That may not be quick to some...but it seemed quick to us.
This is her 4th marriage. She had a 17 year old son that she adopted, but dumped at Job Corps to get rid of him, before moving into my parents home.
She has 2 living biological sons, that one she has not had contact with in 10 years.
I have an older sister, who is mentally unstable...and none of us have had contact with her, or her kids...since before my Mom died {for me}, and right after my other older sister died {9 mths after my Mom}.
There have been accusations of child molestation against 2 of new wife's ex husbands, she told us that her son stopped talking to her because of his wife, and that her last husband was controlling & abusive. He died of cancer couple years ago.
Since marrying my father, they have blown through over $100,000 on absurd things.
Things have not been adding up for us, and we did some digging. We {hubs & I} talked to her estranged son earlier this week. Turns out she has lied about everything to us, which we have found out along the way, and the woman is basically a sociopath.
We are seeking some professional counseling on the matter, because we are not sure how to proceed. We do not feel comfortable with her being in our childrens lives {currently pregnant with #2}, but don't want to take away the only grandchildren my father has access to. The repercussions for allowing only my dad to see them, and not her...we are honestly afraid of what she might do.
I guess I am wondering, if anyone has had similar situations? My Dad is 'in love with his soulmate'. He is clouded by love, and not seeing the distruction that is happening. Talking to just him about the situation is out.