Hey everyone. There's a lot of background but suffice it to say that my father has been CO from me for numerous boundary stomps, mostly not respecting my DH at all, refusing to take responsibility because to him image is everything and for lying to my brothers about events throwing me under the bus as a bad guy. He refused to acknowlage that my husband and I are a package deal and would regularly just litterally ignore him at events or be passive agressive then claim how disrespectful my DH was to him for not kissing his ass. It's been over a year and usually I'm fine with it but it still really hurts that my dad will never meet my kids. Recently my brother has fallen head over heals with a very nice woman who has all of her stuff together and he mentioned that he was bringing her home to meet everyone and they would be staying with my CO father. Well, it hit me hard because one of the things my father did to me was make exactly the same plans, and then last minute say no fionce has to stay elsewhere because your not officially married. We couldn't afford a hotel so we didn't go, I hadn't been home in two years at the time so I was pretty crushed. Now I know this isn't my brothers fault and I also realize that it shouldn't hurt that he's the golden child but it does. My question is it made me think about family events like their wedding coming up. I'm pregnant at the moment, part of me wants to go next year, bring the babies and ignore him, act over the moon just to rub his face in what he can't have. The other part of me says leave the kids at home or don't go. I fully realize I may just be hormonal, it just really hurts to see my siblings having such a great relationship with him, and for everyone to treat him like he hung the moon.It makes me want to withdraw from my whole family so I don't have to hear about it, but as I said we have had no issues there so I hate to cut them out when they ha e done nothing.
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