DH's parents divorced and remarried other people. So he has a step mom, and his mom. My parents divorced too and I have a step mom as well.
Our DD was born in October last year. Ever since her birth, all four grandma's wanted their own time to enjoy with her. I told them that the first few months was bonding time for me, DD and DH. I did not want anyone around causing any hindrance. So they respected my reason.
They came over when we saw fit to have guests and when they did, they did it when each had their alone time with DD.
Fast forward to May this year.
DD was 7 months. All of them were always hinting at DH and I to go out and enjoy the weekend while DD stayed over and one of their houses. DH thought it was neat, so thought we could alot sleep over time for all of them in each month. So in May DD was with my mom. In June, she was with DH's mom. In July, she was with DH's step mom, and in August, she was with my step mom.
I allowed it that way. DD is going to be a year next week. DH does not feel need for a first birthday party. Neither do I. We are just going to have a quiet weekend with DD and go driving around having fun. However, the grandmas don't like it. They want to plan a big party for DD inviting each of their friends and family members who have babies and kids. I told them it was too much , and it made no sense. So they are asking for the weekends again, starting in October. What is so bad, is that both biological grandmas have nurseries in their houses.
I told them that it was too much. DH thinks we should do it that way because all four are her grandma and love her very much. We have dinner at my mom on Tuesday's. Dinner at DH's mom on Thursday. Dinner at my step mom on Saturday. Dinner at his step mom in Sunday.
Anyone in my position with having step parents on both sides, and try to share babysitting time with both biological grandparents and the step grandparents?