So, my mother-in-law has REALLY stepped over the line. First of all, she keeps referring to this baby as hers and her sons, which makes me feel like I'm just a serogate for her! And she keeps offereing me advice from 40 years ago, and she went ahead and bought an entire nursery for HER house (brand new crib, dresser, car seat, EVERYTHING) and furnished another room for my husbnad and I across the hall so we can stay there.
So here is why I'm pissed about these 3 issues.
1.) Serogate. This is my freakin baby too! She had hers, and I'm not her freakin serogate mother! I get she is excited.. but seriously, a little cooth please! let me and my husband enjoy this one! And it makes me feel so useless and unappreciated when she talks to me like I have no ownership to this baby. Like REALLY pisses me off! According to her, it will look like her or him, have the same delivery as her or him, like the same things as her or him... and of course, she saved every freakin toy and blanket and clothing of his from the late 70's early 80's to give to our baby boy. WHAT?? Can I please also decide what to dress my baby in?
2.) She is determined that all labour begins with water breaking because hers did. And she is convinced and telling me that I should demand antibiotics now for strep B, so I don't infect HER grandbaby. I'm sorry... but I think the doctors know how to handle this..... She also insists that I should be scrubbing my nipples raw to prepare them for feeding (even though the lactation consultant said that is the worst thing you could do), she is insisting that i pump so husband and her can feed the baby, (she even went and bought me two different pumps!) even though I wont pumped unless I have to, and insists that everything she says is not advice, as I keep trying to tell her nicely that I appreciate the advice, but don't really need it, but will ask.
Friday night she called and asked if she could come and help out. I said sure, I could use help cleaning the house one more time. She wanted to do the babies room, which I did well over a month ago (including washing walls, ceilings and steam cleaning the carpet, it is ready to go). She thought perhaps I would like to arrnage it differently. Um... NO... YOU would like to arrange it differently.... anyway, because I made the babies room off limits, she decided NOT to come and help! what???????? I also had told her that if she did come, she was not allwed to give me anymore advice, that I just wanted to talk about things other then baby things... she was so pissed at me.
3.) The Nursery at Grandmas. I get it... lots of you will think that is so nice of her. BUT we told her not to. She only lives an hour away, and both me and her son (my husband) have trouble being around her for more then a couple hours at a time becasue she is so pushy. She said then she was set up to babysit so me and hubby could go for supper. We NEVER go for supper. We HATE shopping and eating out. Our idea of a date is lighting a bon fire in the back yard and roasting really high end sausages, not spending an evening waiting for over priced food at some fancy restuarant that is noisy and not very private. Not our style. We warned her that we may not be there as much as she hoped... already she is like "Well, I bought all this stuff, why can't you come and stay here?". REALLY??? We told you not to buy any of it! I feel like she is trying to blackmale us into spending time with her. And what about the other grandparents? Her ex-husbnad? my parents? do they not get equal time with the baby? She really feels like she is entitled to this baby moe then anyone.
I do my best to keep my cool with her, but honestly, I just want to swear at her at the top of my lungs to just F%^& OFF!!!!!
I told my husband that when i do go into labour, we are NOT going to post anything or call her until AFTER the baby is born. I don't need her bullying her way in the labour room to watch my vag stretch and tell me what I'm doing right and/or wrong.... AND I don't want her in the room before hand telling me how to cope with the labour. Like, I've done my homework, and no it will be hard, I'm not an idiot! My hubby agrees to keep her away as long as possible...
Sorry for the vent, but I can't get too angry at her wo causing drama... but really needed to vent.
