I was recommended to this site. My friend uses it, so told me to get advice from outsiders. I read your sticky message, and hoping to get advice.
I'm Korean, and got raised in a strict home, as were my sisters. My parents moved to the US and didn't want us to date outside of our culture. Going to school out of state, I met guys of all races. I dated Asians and whites, primarily. In my final year, I met a white American, who is Italian. We dated for a year in secrecy. After graduation, my parents gift to me was a trip to Thailand. I told my boyfriend of it, and he was going to Europe. On returning back to the US, he went to his home state, and me to. Looking for work, I searched out of state, more in his state. It took a while, but I found a job in my state, did it for 11 months, while in a LDR with my boyfriend. Saving money, I decided to move to him. My parents didn't know of him. I told them I was going to stay with a friend which I did (his best friend), and lok for a job. My parents allowed me to go, they helped me with money, and I left. Five months after moving in, I got a job. Living in the same state with him made things better. On our third dating anniversary, I decided to tell my parents. He had introduced me to his parents and family. I felt ready to tell my family.
I called my parents, told them I was visiting, and brought a friend with me, my boyfriend. My mom asked what kind of guy he was. I told her white. She told me I was a disgrace, she told me I got too Americanized and should have found a nice Korean guy. She told me I wasn't welcomed home. She messaged me asking if I live with him. At the time, I was, and we were serious. I told her we dated in College and has been my boyfriend for years, and was the reason I moved. He wanted to meet my parents because he wanted my dads acceptance to marry me. A few months after, my parents visited our state and at a sit down dinner, they told him how they felt about him. My mom wanted me to go home with them, and even suggested I live in Korea for a year to get back into my culture. I told her no, as I loved him, and wanted to be his wife. In the summer, my dad visited, had an outing with my fiancé, and gave him his blessing. At my sisters wedding, my mom told me to ask my boyfriend to leave, as he was the odd person there. I told her if he left, I left, and my intention was not to ruin my sisters wedding.
We've been in marital classes, and I'm ready to walk do n the aisle next year. I spoke to my mom recently, and she decided to have my fiancé in her home for thanksgiving. She said life is short, and we need to live it. She said she was sorry, and wanted to learn about my fiancé. I told my sister our mom is lying. My mom called and said she's letting me live my life, but when he dumps me and kicks me out, she won't be there. She decided I needed to learn life, see I'm blinded by things, and when he and I have issues, she's not going to be there.
This makes me not want to go home for thanksgiving. I feel conflicted on what to say to her. My fiancé thinks I should ignore her. I don't want to hurt my family, but she's not being open.
How can I salvage this?
I'm Korean, and got raised in a strict home, as were my sisters. My parents moved to the US and didn't want us to date outside of our culture. Going to school out of state, I met guys of all races. I dated Asians and whites, primarily. In my final year, I met a white American, who is Italian. We dated for a year in secrecy. After graduation, my parents gift to me was a trip to Thailand. I told my boyfriend of it, and he was going to Europe. On returning back to the US, he went to his home state, and me to. Looking for work, I searched out of state, more in his state. It took a while, but I found a job in my state, did it for 11 months, while in a LDR with my boyfriend. Saving money, I decided to move to him. My parents didn't know of him. I told them I was going to stay with a friend which I did (his best friend), and lok for a job. My parents allowed me to go, they helped me with money, and I left. Five months after moving in, I got a job. Living in the same state with him made things better. On our third dating anniversary, I decided to tell my parents. He had introduced me to his parents and family. I felt ready to tell my family.
I called my parents, told them I was visiting, and brought a friend with me, my boyfriend. My mom asked what kind of guy he was. I told her white. She told me I was a disgrace, she told me I got too Americanized and should have found a nice Korean guy. She told me I wasn't welcomed home. She messaged me asking if I live with him. At the time, I was, and we were serious. I told her we dated in College and has been my boyfriend for years, and was the reason I moved. He wanted to meet my parents because he wanted my dads acceptance to marry me. A few months after, my parents visited our state and at a sit down dinner, they told him how they felt about him. My mom wanted me to go home with them, and even suggested I live in Korea for a year to get back into my culture. I told her no, as I loved him, and wanted to be his wife. In the summer, my dad visited, had an outing with my fiancé, and gave him his blessing. At my sisters wedding, my mom told me to ask my boyfriend to leave, as he was the odd person there. I told her if he left, I left, and my intention was not to ruin my sisters wedding.
We've been in marital classes, and I'm ready to walk do n the aisle next year. I spoke to my mom recently, and she decided to have my fiancé in her home for thanksgiving. She said life is short, and we need to live it. She said she was sorry, and wanted to learn about my fiancé. I told my sister our mom is lying. My mom called and said she's letting me live my life, but when he dumps me and kicks me out, she won't be there. She decided I needed to learn life, see I'm blinded by things, and when he and I have issues, she's not going to be there.
This makes me not want to go home for thanksgiving. I feel conflicted on what to say to her. My fiancé thinks I should ignore her. I don't want to hurt my family, but she's not being open.
How can I salvage this?
