Lurker here.
My SILs are on here, so need privacy.
My DH and I are going to be having the first granddaughter of the family. My MiL wants us to use her first name for the baby. I told her I don't like it because it's too old fashioned. I also told her, I'm not one to give a child a name, then use their middle name as their name, for life. My DH is like that. She gave him a relatives name for first name, but he uses his middle name to be addressed as. It's confusing because people who know him, call him by the middle name. People who don't know him, call him by his first name, and I'm like, "Oh, you mean so and so.?"
It's annoying, I've told my MIL my reason. Then she input about using my FIL name then. My FILs name can be used for a girl, and people do use it. However, my DH doesn't want our baby to have such a name. She won't quit it. She decided we could use both her and FIL name, either in FIL MIL way or MIL FIL, as either way makes her name identity strong.
I'm confused and irate on this name war we have going on. My MIL keeps at it because to her, she's not been involved with the pregnancy, and wants to at least let ger help come from the naming, and have the honor to bestow it. She sais I have my mom and sister doing everything, and her contribution should be acknowledged.
Am I being unreasonable?
My SILs are on here, so need privacy.
My DH and I are going to be having the first granddaughter of the family. My MiL wants us to use her first name for the baby. I told her I don't like it because it's too old fashioned. I also told her, I'm not one to give a child a name, then use their middle name as their name, for life. My DH is like that. She gave him a relatives name for first name, but he uses his middle name to be addressed as. It's confusing because people who know him, call him by the middle name. People who don't know him, call him by his first name, and I'm like, "Oh, you mean so and so.?"
It's annoying, I've told my MIL my reason. Then she input about using my FIL name then. My FILs name can be used for a girl, and people do use it. However, my DH doesn't want our baby to have such a name. She won't quit it. She decided we could use both her and FIL name, either in FIL MIL way or MIL FIL, as either way makes her name identity strong.
I'm confused and irate on this name war we have going on. My MIL keeps at it because to her, she's not been involved with the pregnancy, and wants to at least let ger help come from the naming, and have the honor to bestow it. She sais I have my mom and sister doing everything, and her contribution should be acknowledged.
Am I being unreasonable?