I'm getting married soon, and pregnant at the same time. Sunday, I told my FSIL I was double barreling my name. She asked me because her brother had written my name with double barrel. FMIL saw and heard, and asked what madness I was doing. To her, she feels a double barrel last name means you don't really love the spouse, and you have divorce options. She also went on to say I won't be seen as family if I do it, because the family name is rare, and needs to be preserved. While she was talking, my F SIL asked if our baby was going to have a double barrel last name, or just the family name. I told her we intended to double barrel. My FMIL told me I was an embarrassment as I was humiliating her son by doing such a thing, and if I loved him, I'd make our baby have his last name, and not double barrel. She feels that by double barreling our child's name, I'm telling her son that if we divorce, I'm going to rob him of parental heritage and drop his last name, leaving my own. Since then, she's telling me I'm crazy, and if her grandchild gets double barreled, she's not going to accept the double barreled. Thing is, she contributed money to our floral arrangements, and said she won't make final payment until she hears I've dropped the double barrel debate.
What can I do?
What can I do?
