I'm back...*sigh* Here is my BG: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a55082422
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a53432764/mil_will_not_let_baptism_alone
I am trying to enjoy my TO with MIL. I have been debating LC before the holidays to be civil. ILs have not contacted me since my CTJ lash out on MIL. ILs also have not been contacing DH. DH imforms FIL called and they talked along time. Apprently PIL brought the idea of taking ODD on a multi-state vacation without us this summer. They want to take ODD on 1500 miles trip to an old bf of ODD. ODD was friends with this girl growing up when PILS, DH and ODD all lived in the same state. Then DH moved here, followed by bf(and her parents) and then PILS. A few years ago ODD's bf moved to the current 1500 miles away from us. They do not really talk anymore. I'm sure though ODD would probably like to see her. Oh why why do these people make life complicated. So PILS have BG with ODD too but I failed to post in other post since LO was the main focus for boundry stomping.
BG:
Last summer before ODD came here for the summer PILS asked if they could take her on multi-state vacation. We agreed as long as 1) They took ODD the days DH worked 2) ODD wanted to go. ODD said she did and so they planned for it. A few days before ODD was suppose to come for the summer she injured herself and needed some extended medical treatment. We set it up and found it they nearest we could start was 3 weeks after she came right smack in the middle of the planned vacation. We imformed ILS and of course they were dissapointed. They proceeded to find way tos to still get her to go on vacation. They asked if we tried different places. Yes we did, we called everywhere because we wanted ODD to get medical therapy ASAP. They asked well could she get in a city an hour away from us which is an another state. NO! I was not driving 2 hours mutiple times a week with a infant. Then they asked if we could delay it until after the vacation. I felt bad for them at the time god knows why. We also found out they had planned to extend the days for the vacation into my DH's days off. We even suggested they could takr ODD on a short day trip instead. They never changed their plans to spend a day trip with ODD.
ODD is not close with PILS in general anymore. After summer MIL sent ODD a CTJ note about how ODD was distant and about making better choices all wrapped in a religous theme. ODD in genreal is having a tough time Lastly, ever since I started shutting down MIL the beginning of the year it appears she is being clingy to ODD on of course on debil. She is commenting more than she ever has like once or twice a week. To me how she does it is rude and attention getting. She always says something mushy but it in the middle of conversation ODD is already having with someone else and is unrelated. I unblocked MIL just to view these conversations. DH told FIL we have to think about it and I expressed my above listed concerns. My biggest fear now is ILS will throw the idea to ODD and then if we say no we look assholes. BM does this all the time promises ODD stuff before she runs it by us then we say no and then we feel like assholes. This is not how I want this to go with ODD. She has no clue ILS aew BSC and I do not want her to find out. Where do I go from here? I am at a loss.