*I've been lurking here for a while, and I've read the stickies.*
This isn't a major problem yet, but it may become an issue between SO and I after the baby is born...
I'm currently 15w3d pregnant. This is my parents first grandchild, and it has helped me begin to mend a relationship with my mother (BG: mom was physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive until recently. I set boundaries 3 months ago and she's doing extremely well).
This will be my SO's parents first grandchild, too, and SO is their only child so he's their only shot at grandchildren.
I love SO's parents. His dad is comical and always makes our visits very fun. His mom is very... naive? I don't know if that's the word. She's 68 years old, and very youthful, but very... childlike? I don't even know how to explain it. She's just very quiet, but we'll-mannered, and calm to be around. Very peaceful.
I'm just worried because she stays home and has graciously offered to care for our little one, since we'll be living only 5 minutes away. I'm okay with this arrangement, except that I feel she may expect us to visit each day when we pick LO up.
I'm a very fast-paced person. I have things to do, places to be, and I'll completely forget if I stop for 2 seconds (not really, but I can be like that).
I wouldn't mind visiting with her when picking LO up, but I'm sure she would insist we stay for dinner (to help make life easier for me... she really IS that gentle and kind-hearted) or come over on the weekends.
SO tells me how much his mom misses seeing us and that she hopes we can come visit her more often after we move back to his little hometown. Currently, we visit about once every two months. SO doesn't push the subject, knowing I'm having problems with this pregnancy, but I think he may push the issue once we're living only 5 minutes away and I'll be working from home (it's a 47 acre ranch).
I really love her to death, but I have seen the sadness on her face when we currently decline invitations. I'm just so busy, I don't know what to do about this. I know she just loves me and SO, and she's excited about the baby, but their house is just too calm for me. I grew up in chaos and have a very hard time dealing with that kind of peace and quiet. It relaxes me almost to the point of depression because I feel like I'm not doing anything for long periods of time (yes, an hour is a long time for me).
What do I do?
This isn't a major problem yet, but it may become an issue between SO and I after the baby is born...
I'm currently 15w3d pregnant. This is my parents first grandchild, and it has helped me begin to mend a relationship with my mother (BG: mom was physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive until recently. I set boundaries 3 months ago and she's doing extremely well).
This will be my SO's parents first grandchild, too, and SO is their only child so he's their only shot at grandchildren.
I love SO's parents. His dad is comical and always makes our visits very fun. His mom is very... naive? I don't know if that's the word. She's 68 years old, and very youthful, but very... childlike? I don't even know how to explain it. She's just very quiet, but we'll-mannered, and calm to be around. Very peaceful.
I'm just worried because she stays home and has graciously offered to care for our little one, since we'll be living only 5 minutes away. I'm okay with this arrangement, except that I feel she may expect us to visit each day when we pick LO up.
I'm a very fast-paced person. I have things to do, places to be, and I'll completely forget if I stop for 2 seconds (not really, but I can be like that).
I wouldn't mind visiting with her when picking LO up, but I'm sure she would insist we stay for dinner (to help make life easier for me... she really IS that gentle and kind-hearted) or come over on the weekends.
SO tells me how much his mom misses seeing us and that she hopes we can come visit her more often after we move back to his little hometown. Currently, we visit about once every two months. SO doesn't push the subject, knowing I'm having problems with this pregnancy, but I think he may push the issue once we're living only 5 minutes away and I'll be working from home (it's a 47 acre ranch).
I really love her to death, but I have seen the sadness on her face when we currently decline invitations. I'm just so busy, I don't know what to do about this. I know she just loves me and SO, and she's excited about the baby, but their house is just too calm for me. I grew up in chaos and have a very hard time dealing with that kind of peace and quiet. It relaxes me almost to the point of depression because I feel like I'm not doing anything for long periods of time (yes, an hour is a long time for me).
What do I do?
