My husband died three years ago - four years in June. He was a healthy 33-year-old man and he died very suddenly.
After my husband died, his family, especially his sisters and his mother, said some very unkind things to me. I will not go into details, but it was due to upset over the inheritance and where it went. They also said unkind things about our daughter and suggested that she was "less than" and less deserves my husband's estate because she was "not his" (we had used a surrogate mother and my sperm). They were severely upset that he had left his entire estate to our daughter. It was stressful and upsetting, especially in the wake of a sudden lose the love of my life - I was only 25 years old at the time, so I was very much in over my head, so I took the decision to close touch with them.
I have not spoken to them in two and a half years and I have been quite happy that way. Today, I get an e-mail message. I will copy and paste this for you:
"Hi Eddie,
I heard you moved this summer. I hope you're settling in.
I'm hoping since we are now geographically closer that you'd be willing to let Nella have a visit. She has cousins she's never met before. I think it's time to put all that other stuff to rest.
-Anna"
I do not like her tone and I do not like her implication here.
I am by no obligation to provide her or someone else something, right? If she can not be bothered to apologize for saying terrible things about a small child, she is not worth the time or energy? Help me to maintain a shiny spine (or tell me to stop being so mean 
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