So, that last straw happened at LOs first birthday party, which was in January. I was already sick of MIL from seeing her too much over the holidays. We were at the in-laws for xmas and she snatched LO from me because she wanted to open his first presents and be the center of attention, which I was prepared for and managed to keep from happening without causing a major scene. Right after New Years we went to see Star Wars and she babysat for us, it was the first time we went out since he was born and we were hoping she would behave herself. It was...okay. She still rubbed me the wrong way, but we didn't have any major issues, though he was sick the next day, so we thought she might have fed him something he shouldn't eat. We decided to do his birthday dinner and party at our place, hoping that would keep her from behaving inappropriately. We were mistaken. So, everything was going well. She was on her best fake polite behavior. Then it comes time for LOs smash cake. Now, I made this cake special for him because he has numerous food intolerances. SO was operating the camera and I was going to feed LO his first cake. Sounds reasonable, right? Well, while I was saying goodbye to some guests that had to leave early, MIL gets his cake out and starts feeding it to him. WHILE IM NOT EVEN IN THE FUCKING ROOM. Meanwhile, SO is just snapping pictures like this is okay. So, I miss my sons first cake, MIL stole that memory and those pictures from me. The cake that I made for the baby I made and breastfed and sacrificed so much for. It's been nearly a month and I'm still so upset. At first I as just really depressed. Now I'm pretty angry. I'm also angry at SO because he should have stopped her. How could he not notice that I wasn't there? That it was his mother, not me, feeding our son the cake I made for him on his first birthday? When I explained that to him, he said he "didn't even think about it" but admitted it was fucked up. Well, gee, thanks. That fixes everything. It took me months to get him to confront her about not smoking around our son, I don't even know what to do about this. I told him I now officially don't like his mother, I don't want her around, and I better not see her for months. Then yesterday he talks about us going over to their house to use their shop vac to clean out the car. I was like, are you stupid? It hasn't even been a month and you're already trying to have this fight? I can't even. If any of you have seen my other posts, you'll know this isn't a new deal with her. I fucking tried. I really did. But I guess this was the push I needed, I let her get away with too much in the past. I thought that after I stood up to her on Christmas things would be different, but she just got even more underhanded. Why would anyone act like that? Who goes to someone else's kids birthday party and feeds their kid the first birthday cake? Sorry for ranting, but I needed to get that out. It's been festering and I'm beginning to wonder if I'll ever get past this. I'd be happy if I never saw that horrible woman again. After that incident, I can't even tell myself she means well. She is selfish and unstable and she can go fuck herself. I feel slightly better now...but not really.
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