BG: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a59666998/duh_getting_a_unicorn_horn_help_me_articulate_update_pg_3?cpg=1
TL;DR BG: MIL is a narc asshole who uses emotional blackmail. SIL is the GC. Husband is scapegoat. They had a falling out after MIL told DH his feelings are wrong. MIL was asked to give us space back in June after a lawn tantrum and contacting my mother via the debil. All has been BHed since, DH has not responded to the no less than 10 texts and passive aggressive posts on facebook before he blocked. He sprouted a horn recently and wanted to possibly reach out if only to tell them what about their behavior is wrong, although these talks have been had. He's now sitting on that idea, kids and I are off the table for at least a year and a half at this point. More as she continues to stomp around like King Koopa.
We sold and bought a house. IL's knew our home was on the market. We believe they watched the house via drive bys or online to see the status. We had a trailer outside for the final week and the sunday MIL would have been in town to notice it missing (church in our city) she sent DH a text. She also texted him when she "heard through the grapevine" that we purchased a new home (SIL's boyfriend's mother saw me shopping and heard me speaking with my sister, immediately reported to MIL).
Today we received 2 cards, one for each child. She sends cards when she feels she isn't getting enough time with the children. There are no return addresses. DH has not shared with her our new address. I'm sure there's some kind of public record of our address since we purchased a home but I wouldn't know where to find it. I'm pissed she dug it up like a psycho.
What's protocol on this? Trash them? Write her address on them and RTS just to have the satisfaction of the "fuck you, not today?"
Should DH address this? She always ramps up around the holidays.