I apologize in advance for any typos - I'm mobile. I'm a recent serial lurker and I've read the sticky, BGP, think I've got this down.
I've been nervous to post here because I'm scared of opening the whole can of worms about my messed up family. But I realize that I can just post about the ILs for now. Specifically, my MIL.
I don't trust this woman w my children for 5 minutes. She seems to be entirely lacking in the nurturing/common sense with children dept. she boundary stomped w my 28 mo old DS several times w food. She looked at me and shoved eggs in his mouth without asking. I cleared them out of his mouth and calmly told her not to do that again. A month later she was visiting us and the hag did it again! She held him and looked at me and shoved eggs in his mouth! I grabbed ds and went off. She said, "well I don't remember you telling me not to." Like hell. My husband let her have it - they have a fucked up family dynamic and he feels he has to go a bit extreme w her for her to get it - maybe he does. She grabbed her plate, stormed off to the guest bedroom, and finished her breakfast there. Then she pouted til it was time to leave.
Some time ago she began doing this thing. She would hold ds like a baby until he said "no," struggled, let her know he was upset. Or shed hold his face. I corrected her each time, but both times I was kind of like WTF! Why are you doing that? There isn't a non- bsc answer, and I clearly didn't do my job well enough. They were here for Christmas Eve and she put her feet on either side of my nephew's (1) neck and was holding him. Like. Alone. He was kind of crying w no sound. She wasn't squeezing hard, just restraining him til he cried. I am just horrified remembering this/typing it. I walked in on this, ran over and removed my nephew, comforted him and told her never to do that again - to my children or my sil (best friend). I was horrified. She thought it was funny?
Ok. Sorry this is long. I had a daughter in January. In the hospital, when I was still tired (36 hr labor), she did it again! She held ds btw her legs while he clearly didn't want to be. Just a few seconds, but why? Bitch! She never does this in my husband's presence.
They visited when lo was about 2 months. At one point I remember her saying, "be quiet (lo's name), or we'll put your head in the garbage disposal!" (This is cathartic...wtf!) she said it jokingly, but umm...not funny. She also said, "I haven't seen a baby twat since my niece was a baby."
She says all of this jokingly. She has no filter. Ever. And it's weird bc she thinks her big house and money give her license to say whatever she wants.
Submitting before I lose all this or lose my nerve.
Apparently relevant bg: I was raped and tortured for 36 hours with my best friend, by her 31 yo bf, when we were 21. I became pregnant from the rape and aborted. Rapist is in prison for 50-75 years.
I've been nervous to post here because I'm scared of opening the whole can of worms about my messed up family. But I realize that I can just post about the ILs for now. Specifically, my MIL.
I don't trust this woman w my children for 5 minutes. She seems to be entirely lacking in the nurturing/common sense with children dept. she boundary stomped w my 28 mo old DS several times w food. She looked at me and shoved eggs in his mouth without asking. I cleared them out of his mouth and calmly told her not to do that again. A month later she was visiting us and the hag did it again! She held him and looked at me and shoved eggs in his mouth! I grabbed ds and went off. She said, "well I don't remember you telling me not to." Like hell. My husband let her have it - they have a fucked up family dynamic and he feels he has to go a bit extreme w her for her to get it - maybe he does. She grabbed her plate, stormed off to the guest bedroom, and finished her breakfast there. Then she pouted til it was time to leave.
Some time ago she began doing this thing. She would hold ds like a baby until he said "no," struggled, let her know he was upset. Or shed hold his face. I corrected her each time, but both times I was kind of like WTF! Why are you doing that? There isn't a non- bsc answer, and I clearly didn't do my job well enough. They were here for Christmas Eve and she put her feet on either side of my nephew's (1) neck and was holding him. Like. Alone. He was kind of crying w no sound. She wasn't squeezing hard, just restraining him til he cried. I am just horrified remembering this/typing it. I walked in on this, ran over and removed my nephew, comforted him and told her never to do that again - to my children or my sil (best friend). I was horrified. She thought it was funny?
Ok. Sorry this is long. I had a daughter in January. In the hospital, when I was still tired (36 hr labor), she did it again! She held ds btw her legs while he clearly didn't want to be. Just a few seconds, but why? Bitch! She never does this in my husband's presence.
They visited when lo was about 2 months. At one point I remember her saying, "be quiet (lo's name), or we'll put your head in the garbage disposal!" (This is cathartic...wtf!) she said it jokingly, but umm...not funny. She also said, "I haven't seen a baby twat since my niece was a baby."
She says all of this jokingly. She has no filter. Ever. And it's weird bc she thinks her big house and money give her license to say whatever she wants.
Submitting before I lose all this or lose my nerve.
Apparently relevant bg: I was raped and tortured for 36 hours with my best friend, by her 31 yo bf, when we were 21. I became pregnant from the rape and aborted. Rapist is in prison for 50-75 years.