My husband recently accepted a position working in another state. It is a great opportunity for him. It is also in a family friendly area, with good schools, a favorable housing market, and a climate that is more friendly for our health than the one we currently live in.
We currently live a little less than an hour away from my FOO, we see them 1-2x a month, sometimes they babysit so we can have a date night, sometimes it's a family dinner with everyone.
My mom cannot seem to deal with the fact that we are moving. She has known for weeks now, and every time I talk to her (about once a week), she argues, pouts, and acts very woe-is-me. According to my dad, she is "in mourning." Luckily he understands that we need to do what is best for our nuclear family, even though of course he will miss his grandbabies.
My husband and I are so excited to have this opportunity. Of course we will miss our family and friends here, but that's pretty much the only con to a long list of pros.
We typically all have a good relationship, and of course I would like that to continue. She has been PA in the past but has proven to be trainable. I just need her to realize that I'm an adult with my own family, and she doesn't get to monopolize my life forever, and she can't deny us experiences because our choices are emotionally difficult for her.
I'd like to maybe send an e-mail, give her a chance to realize that she is behaving inappropriately and fix it.
Any ideas, wise DWILers?
Thank you for taking the time to read and advise :-)