I don't want to get into a long background here, although I am happy to answer any questions, but right now I just don't have the energy.
Anyway, I am wondering what the consensus is about e-mailing TO'd family member to elaborate TO and further explain terms and conditions (TAC) of TO. Said family member was on a ~1yr TO once prior about 13 or so years ago but otherwise the relationship has been slowly getting better with exceptions, including now. He likely doesn't remember being TO'd the last time as it a general rule to rug-sweep any and all things that is detrimental to faaaamily.
Said TO'd family member is my dad. I did send him an initial text message (which I have since deleted or else I'd screen shot) which said something along the lines of, "Your actions today were disrespectful, demeaning, and completely unacceptable. At this time, I have decided to take a break from you. Please do not contact me or my family. We will contact you when we are ready."
Since that text (3 days ago), I have BH'd a phone call each day and several guilt-trippy texts that include shit like, "I signed my retirement papers today, I wish you didn't hate me" and "I wish I knew what I did to deserve for you to treat me this way."
At this point I just want to write him an email that reiterates the reason for the TO and the terms. Basically I want him to know that the more he contacts me, the longer it will be until I feel ready to resume a relationship, if I decide to at all. I feel that him contacting me reiterates my entire point that he is inconsiderate and disrespectful toward me and my feelings. He is really hard-headed so is an additional email a good or bad idea and why?
Anyway, I am wondering what the consensus is about e-mailing TO'd family member to elaborate TO and further explain terms and conditions (TAC) of TO. Said family member was on a ~1yr TO once prior about 13 or so years ago but otherwise the relationship has been slowly getting better with exceptions, including now. He likely doesn't remember being TO'd the last time as it a general rule to rug-sweep any and all things that is detrimental to faaaamily.
Said TO'd family member is my dad. I did send him an initial text message (which I have since deleted or else I'd screen shot) which said something along the lines of, "Your actions today were disrespectful, demeaning, and completely unacceptable. At this time, I have decided to take a break from you. Please do not contact me or my family. We will contact you when we are ready."
Since that text (3 days ago), I have BH'd a phone call each day and several guilt-trippy texts that include shit like, "I signed my retirement papers today, I wish you didn't hate me" and "I wish I knew what I did to deserve for you to treat me this way."
At this point I just want to write him an email that reiterates the reason for the TO and the terms. Basically I want him to know that the more he contacts me, the longer it will be until I feel ready to resume a relationship, if I decide to at all. I feel that him contacting me reiterates my entire point that he is inconsiderate and disrespectful toward me and my feelings. He is really hard-headed so is an additional email a good or bad idea and why?
