I've been dealing with MIL issues for almost two decades. Time to get it out before I blow. Humor me.... We got along until we got engaged, then it became I'm taking her baby away, etc. Anyway, for years she's been telling family, whoever listens, etc. that I do nothing. I literally sit and eat bon bons while my DH works all the time. That he cookes, cleans, etc. I do all housework and bills. He does outside yard stuff. He does work a lot but that's due to his career. It offers no OT time.
I'm just sick of it because she has for years put herself and FIL in debt, major debt, 10s of thousands of dollars in debt for over 3 decades. My DH had to go over and cut up her credit cards because they were so high. It's not his job to do. And now this year while doing their taxes he sees her letter from the casino. $11,000 of gambling this year. Add that to her maxed out new credit cards she somehow got. And now he saw she's drawing on her retirement and she's not retired. I so want to blow her cover as we are the only ones who have known this for years. I'm so tired of her comments about me always shopping,e tc. I shop for neccessities and watch sales, etc. We're not in debt. She is! And now she's telling everyone she needs to retire because FIL wants her home. It's BS. If she retires that's more time to shop and gamble. (I really need to check my kids credit. I'm worried she might have stuff in their name)
Then add how her hand is always out. My DH comes from large family but yet we host all holidays and have his parents over. I only do it so my kids see their grandparents. And she needs to be waited on while she is here. We went away for Easter, do you think she could have went to one of the others kids houses that are so much better than me. No she whined that no one invited her anywhere so they had to go to the casinos for the day. UGH!
She asks for large presents like expensive purses, yet gives us barely anything. She doesn't even send me a bday card. And she doesn't give my DH anything but a card. (not being greedy just showing her expectations)
We haven't been invited to her house for a dinner for over 11 years. But yet she wants to know if I'm hosting mother's day. NO! We always pick one day in the middle of mother's day and father's day and do the inlaws at once. They don't get to steal our Mothers Day and Fathers Day.
When I was pregnant both times, long time ago, I was on and off bedrest, in and out of the hospital, etc. She would say things like,"What's wong with her now? " in such a snide way. Drove me crazy. Yet she goes on and on about her supposedly fibromyalgia, etc.
Then there's the I guess I raised my kids wrong, not enough love, etc. But stop moaning about it and fix it . Change your ways, be involved. She only wants to talk about bad news and gossip. If I talk about something one of my kids did that's good, she walks away. She only caters to the negative. Then she wonders why we tell her nothing, ever. She talks to anyone who listens. She didnt' know DH had health issues for months because he was worried she'd tell everyone.
A relative almost died in an accident. She was all about spreading that news, but since the accident no update. We ask all the time and she says she doesn't know, she hasn't asked. Because once the drama is over, she's done.
I could go on, but I won't bore you.
Gee, that felt good!
Sorry if this is a rant. I'm so ready to blow and I don't want it to be in front of my kids.