My mom is very very controlling. I've read alot of these, but not finished. I decided I wanted just the father and I since this is my first time. I really don't know how it will go, so I want as much bonding time with us three. Since my baby boy is going to be early due to pre-eclampsia.
So here is my pre birth drama.
At 35 weeks I wanted it to only be me and the father. I didn't want any visitors till we were sent home. Since I would be tired and need sleep and baby is tired and still trying to figure out the world. We'll time goes on and my sister and the my boyfriend/father convince me to let my mom in. I still have the thought that if she can't contain herself that she will be told to leave.
Well the day of my 36 week ob check up. My mom wanted to come up to help organize and clean before our baby came. I said sure, with caution. I love my mom, although I can only handle her for an hour before I get stressed out. I had planned out where I wanted everything to go. I have a three bedroom house. I picked out the room that is closer to the bathroom. Since that's where all his clothes, diapers and health care was. Then the baby will be in our room so getting up and down would be easier. Well the whole time she kept trying to convince me to make his nursery further away, because the room was more "convenient." When I really think it was so she could move in to be with her secret lover. Long and unrelenting story sorry. We'll everytime I say no. She gets more persistent and demanding to basically telling me that's going to her decision. She then starts to tell me she needs to move in because I can't handle the baby by myself. Again I think was to see her secret lover (both my mom and him are married. He just had a baby and way younger than her) I get irrated but not say anything, because it wasn't going to happen. Then my boyfriend joins her side and tries to convince me aswell. He will always take her side. She loves him more than me I think sometimes.
FF to the doctors appointment, they wanted to check my cervix because baby had dropped and wanted to see if there was any dialation. We'll I told my mother that she would have to wait till we got done. She stared to get a tone and say "we'll I'm going to see you down there when you deliver!" Then I tell her for the hundredth time that she is not going to and if I catch her peeking she will be sent out. That's a connection that I have with my mom. I don't want her seeing my body. I'm pregnant so all of my private and shyness is gone. Then she starts screaming about how she's my mother and she changed my diapers and how she has every right to see my vagina! I stand by decision and say that will get you kicked out.
During the appointment I had high blood pressure and proteins in my urine. I was in shock when I had to stay in the hospital for 24 hours. Well my mom decided to wait for at least 4 hours. The whole time made me reconsider her being in the delivery room. When the nurse was asking about pain management. I told her that the epi was my last resort. My mom interrupted and said "you can't handle pain!" She then looks at the nurse and said " give her an epi as soon as she's in pain." The nurse ignores her and writes down my request. I look at her and explain that it's about me and my son. So I choose what's best. She then say " remember when you came in crying because you period cramps." I said yea but when it comes to my child I will go through any pain. She then responses " honew you are going to be able to handle it you're not strong enough and you will give in trust me!" I ignored her and gave her no attention. Then my friend of 12 years calls me and ask if she can be in the delivery room. I guess my mom heard and whispered no she cant! I ignored her and continue my conversation telling her that I will think about it. We'll my mom comes around and takes my phone and tells my friend " you have no right, I gave birth to her so you need to ask me. I say no don't ask again." I told her to leave. This woman let all of her husband's abuse me, because she didn't want to be alone. She constantly belittled me and tells me I'm wrong. She ignores everything I say when I talk to her it's like talking to a wall. We arnt close at all.
My BP rose to a 174/109 and as soon as she left it was a constant 150/98. My normal BP is 128/64.
So the next day I call and say she's has one more chance to screw up or she's going to wait to visit like everyone else. She says "since you can't register as private I will be able to find you room and come in." I said that was it and I hung up.
During this 24 hour urine test, they decided to induce me at 37 weeks. Unfortunately my mom heard the whole plan, so we will see. I stand my ground, so I will have no problem. I juse want it to beautiful and all about my family.
There was so much more but it's getting long!
So here is my pre birth drama.
At 35 weeks I wanted it to only be me and the father. I didn't want any visitors till we were sent home. Since I would be tired and need sleep and baby is tired and still trying to figure out the world. We'll time goes on and my sister and the my boyfriend/father convince me to let my mom in. I still have the thought that if she can't contain herself that she will be told to leave.
Well the day of my 36 week ob check up. My mom wanted to come up to help organize and clean before our baby came. I said sure, with caution. I love my mom, although I can only handle her for an hour before I get stressed out. I had planned out where I wanted everything to go. I have a three bedroom house. I picked out the room that is closer to the bathroom. Since that's where all his clothes, diapers and health care was. Then the baby will be in our room so getting up and down would be easier. Well the whole time she kept trying to convince me to make his nursery further away, because the room was more "convenient." When I really think it was so she could move in to be with her secret lover. Long and unrelenting story sorry. We'll everytime I say no. She gets more persistent and demanding to basically telling me that's going to her decision. She then starts to tell me she needs to move in because I can't handle the baby by myself. Again I think was to see her secret lover (both my mom and him are married. He just had a baby and way younger than her) I get irrated but not say anything, because it wasn't going to happen. Then my boyfriend joins her side and tries to convince me aswell. He will always take her side. She loves him more than me I think sometimes.
FF to the doctors appointment, they wanted to check my cervix because baby had dropped and wanted to see if there was any dialation. We'll I told my mother that she would have to wait till we got done. She stared to get a tone and say "we'll I'm going to see you down there when you deliver!" Then I tell her for the hundredth time that she is not going to and if I catch her peeking she will be sent out. That's a connection that I have with my mom. I don't want her seeing my body. I'm pregnant so all of my private and shyness is gone. Then she starts screaming about how she's my mother and she changed my diapers and how she has every right to see my vagina! I stand by decision and say that will get you kicked out.
During the appointment I had high blood pressure and proteins in my urine. I was in shock when I had to stay in the hospital for 24 hours. Well my mom decided to wait for at least 4 hours. The whole time made me reconsider her being in the delivery room. When the nurse was asking about pain management. I told her that the epi was my last resort. My mom interrupted and said "you can't handle pain!" She then looks at the nurse and said " give her an epi as soon as she's in pain." The nurse ignores her and writes down my request. I look at her and explain that it's about me and my son. So I choose what's best. She then say " remember when you came in crying because you period cramps." I said yea but when it comes to my child I will go through any pain. She then responses " honew you are going to be able to handle it you're not strong enough and you will give in trust me!" I ignored her and gave her no attention. Then my friend of 12 years calls me and ask if she can be in the delivery room. I guess my mom heard and whispered no she cant! I ignored her and continue my conversation telling her that I will think about it. We'll my mom comes around and takes my phone and tells my friend " you have no right, I gave birth to her so you need to ask me. I say no don't ask again." I told her to leave. This woman let all of her husband's abuse me, because she didn't want to be alone. She constantly belittled me and tells me I'm wrong. She ignores everything I say when I talk to her it's like talking to a wall. We arnt close at all.
My BP rose to a 174/109 and as soon as she left it was a constant 150/98. My normal BP is 128/64.
So the next day I call and say she's has one more chance to screw up or she's going to wait to visit like everyone else. She says "since you can't register as private I will be able to find you room and come in." I said that was it and I hung up.
During this 24 hour urine test, they decided to induce me at 37 weeks. Unfortunately my mom heard the whole plan, so we will see. I stand my ground, so I will have no problem. I juse want it to beautiful and all about my family.
There was so much more but it's getting long!