Why is it that in laws in particular seem astounded when you push back at them or demand respect? It seems to me that ALL of my in laws feel they can do/act how they please and there will be no consequences because "they're family."
I've cut off my MIL completely but right before the official CO she sent me and DH a bat shit crazy text that included "You both WILL respond to my texts in a timely manner I'M THE MOM." She actually put "I'm the mom" in all caps like that to her son and myself like that means anything to us? My GMIL posted several rude comments on my Facebook that earned her a block, so which she left my a voicemail saying I can't block her from seeing pics of "her own great granddaughter" as if that matters?
I don't understand. I treat my in laws just like I do anyone else. I expect respect. I expect to be treated fairly. In return, I respect them, and I treat them fairly. I will not allow them to be rude or nasty to me, and if they are I will explain why I don't appreciate what they did and how that kind of thing will not be tolerated. If the behavior is repeated, there will be the consequence of no longer being in my life.
For some reason, I get the feeling it's been engrained into people to tolerate abuse from in laws?
If anything, it would expect it to be the other way around. I am the wife. I am the mother. I run this house. I call the shots. To get to my DD, you go through me. To be around my husband, you've also got to be around me. Screw up the relationship with me, guess what? You've screwed up the relationship with everyone because my nuclear family is a UNIT.
Is it me, or do in laws think they get to act how they please because we're a "new" member of the family? Do they not expect us to stand up for ourselves? Is it just that my in laws suck? What's the deal?
I've cut off my MIL completely but right before the official CO she sent me and DH a bat shit crazy text that included "You both WILL respond to my texts in a timely manner I'M THE MOM." She actually put "I'm the mom" in all caps like that to her son and myself like that means anything to us? My GMIL posted several rude comments on my Facebook that earned her a block, so which she left my a voicemail saying I can't block her from seeing pics of "her own great granddaughter" as if that matters?
I don't understand. I treat my in laws just like I do anyone else. I expect respect. I expect to be treated fairly. In return, I respect them, and I treat them fairly. I will not allow them to be rude or nasty to me, and if they are I will explain why I don't appreciate what they did and how that kind of thing will not be tolerated. If the behavior is repeated, there will be the consequence of no longer being in my life.
For some reason, I get the feeling it's been engrained into people to tolerate abuse from in laws?
If anything, it would expect it to be the other way around. I am the wife. I am the mother. I run this house. I call the shots. To get to my DD, you go through me. To be around my husband, you've also got to be around me. Screw up the relationship with me, guess what? You've screwed up the relationship with everyone because my nuclear family is a UNIT.
Is it me, or do in laws think they get to act how they please because we're a "new" member of the family? Do they not expect us to stand up for ourselves? Is it just that my in laws suck? What's the deal?