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I guess i need validation that i am not.a cold selfis bitch, but i am tired of my dh and his freeloading mom.
We have been together seven years, married four. One DD, a DS on the way. Due June 30. Over the past seven years i have had to impatiently.coach dh as he took steps to remove himself from his siblings financially. He is the middle of three and has a financially irresponsible older sister and financially irresponsible older brother. All three of them had the same opportunities but the other two pissed theirs away and exected my dh to help them. He just recently put his foot down and we celebrated.
Now i need him to do the same with his mom. About a year ago, i became ill and physically can't do things i used to and can't work. At the time per the story of her life mil was havinf money problems, although she is provided many government benefits such as food stamps, state insurance.and section 8. DH bulldozed me into having her move in. He mentioned her staying with us before he talked with me, claiminf he didnt think i would mind if she stayed with us because me and her get.along. I felt put upon when she asked me herself and hesitantly agreed. In exchange for living here rent free, utility payment free, etc., she.was supposed to help with stuff around the house and DD and take over one of our car payments
I told DH it wasn't going to.work and I was right.
1) she stopped paying for the car almost immediately and never had money fir its repairs or maintenance. When Dh mentioned taking the car back she magically produced money for that month's payment.
2) all three of her kids have different dads as she spent her adult years chaing after loser men instead of keeping any of the great jobs she had that could have afforded her a decent future (nursing, post office, just to name a couple) and she is seeing yet another loser. She has not spent the night here in months yet has boxes of useless crap piled up in what is supposed to be DS room.
3) She hasn't helped me with a single chore and when she did stay here.couldn't break.away from.FB long enough to.boil.DD a hotdog for lunch after watching me huff and puff as I try to.clean my home.
Dh is used to living this way but I think it's wrong. He could work forty hours and be just fine and have time to.spend with us, but instead works extra to fund her life. I have really come to resent her. I have to tell him tonight that he needs to get her stuff out and get our fucking car back.
I guess i need validation that i am not.a cold selfis bitch, but i am tired of my dh and his freeloading mom.
We have been together seven years, married four. One DD, a DS on the way. Due June 30. Over the past seven years i have had to impatiently.coach dh as he took steps to remove himself from his siblings financially. He is the middle of three and has a financially irresponsible older sister and financially irresponsible older brother. All three of them had the same opportunities but the other two pissed theirs away and exected my dh to help them. He just recently put his foot down and we celebrated.
Now i need him to do the same with his mom. About a year ago, i became ill and physically can't do things i used to and can't work. At the time per the story of her life mil was havinf money problems, although she is provided many government benefits such as food stamps, state insurance.and section 8. DH bulldozed me into having her move in. He mentioned her staying with us before he talked with me, claiminf he didnt think i would mind if she stayed with us because me and her get.along. I felt put upon when she asked me herself and hesitantly agreed. In exchange for living here rent free, utility payment free, etc., she.was supposed to help with stuff around the house and DD and take over one of our car payments
I told DH it wasn't going to.work and I was right.
1) she stopped paying for the car almost immediately and never had money fir its repairs or maintenance. When Dh mentioned taking the car back she magically produced money for that month's payment.
2) all three of her kids have different dads as she spent her adult years chaing after loser men instead of keeping any of the great jobs she had that could have afforded her a decent future (nursing, post office, just to name a couple) and she is seeing yet another loser. She has not spent the night here in months yet has boxes of useless crap piled up in what is supposed to be DS room.
3) She hasn't helped me with a single chore and when she did stay here.couldn't break.away from.FB long enough to.boil.DD a hotdog for lunch after watching me huff and puff as I try to.clean my home.
Dh is used to living this way but I think it's wrong. He could work forty hours and be just fine and have time to.spend with us, but instead works extra to fund her life. I have really come to resent her. I have to tell him tonight that he needs to get her stuff out and get our fucking car back.