I'm looking for advice and help on how to deal with family members calling us out for not calling/visiting my MIL on Mother's Day.
Rewind to last Thursday before the big day. We gave an eight month old and are expecting another bundle of joy this year. He was so excited to break the news to her.
We walk into Mil's house and she says "I heard your niece was born" I tell her yes she came early. (My brothers girlfriend gave birth like two days after her shower!) Dh says something like "now Jordan is going to have someone to play with" She agrees and said yes that's so beautiful. Dh then says our Lo is also going to have a friend to play with soon. He looks at me and I nod my head. She has a confused look on her face and says "you're joking right? it's sad when you have the second child, they always get jealous-well congratulations on being an aunt". So I say "so you congratulate me for being an aunt and not for being pregnant?" She then tried to backtrack and say she did congratulate me. She didn't. She asked if we're joking and we both just shake our heads that we weren't and after an awkward silence Dh walks out and as I'm packing up Lo's toys she says "what's wrong with him?" And I say you. And she says "are you really pregnant? I thought you guys were joking" and I said "I dont think so" then left.
Dh was so disappointed in her reaction and I told him that I'm done with her. He said we don't have to see her until she apologizes but I doubt that will ever happen. She left him a voicemail a few days later saying that she was sorry but the older kids will get neglected, lose weight and get jealous. It's hard being pregnant when you're sick and have a LO so tell OP she can drop Lo off when she's sick and I can watch her.
That is not an apology! We BH. Mother's Day comes and goes we don't call or go over and now I'm hearing through the grapevine that she's saying not one of my sons (she has two other sons) came to visit me on Mother's Day and I don't know why. Total victim card.
I got a text from a family member saying that it was wrong of us to not visit her and that we need to be the bigger person. How to I handle this in a graceful manner?
Rewind to last Thursday before the big day. We gave an eight month old and are expecting another bundle of joy this year. He was so excited to break the news to her.
We walk into Mil's house and she says "I heard your niece was born" I tell her yes she came early. (My brothers girlfriend gave birth like two days after her shower!) Dh says something like "now Jordan is going to have someone to play with" She agrees and said yes that's so beautiful. Dh then says our Lo is also going to have a friend to play with soon. He looks at me and I nod my head. She has a confused look on her face and says "you're joking right? it's sad when you have the second child, they always get jealous-well congratulations on being an aunt". So I say "so you congratulate me for being an aunt and not for being pregnant?" She then tried to backtrack and say she did congratulate me. She didn't. She asked if we're joking and we both just shake our heads that we weren't and after an awkward silence Dh walks out and as I'm packing up Lo's toys she says "what's wrong with him?" And I say you. And she says "are you really pregnant? I thought you guys were joking" and I said "I dont think so" then left.
Dh was so disappointed in her reaction and I told him that I'm done with her. He said we don't have to see her until she apologizes but I doubt that will ever happen. She left him a voicemail a few days later saying that she was sorry but the older kids will get neglected, lose weight and get jealous. It's hard being pregnant when you're sick and have a LO so tell OP she can drop Lo off when she's sick and I can watch her.
That is not an apology! We BH. Mother's Day comes and goes we don't call or go over and now I'm hearing through the grapevine that she's saying not one of my sons (she has two other sons) came to visit me on Mother's Day and I don't know why. Total victim card.
I got a text from a family member saying that it was wrong of us to not visit her and that we need to be the bigger person. How to I handle this in a graceful manner?