I thought about posting this on my birth board, but it's a behemoth and you seem better qualified to give advice.
Some short back story: I'm the youngest of four full siblings (2 half siblings are not relevant to the story). My older sisters (twins) were the golden children of the family when we were kids, leaving my older brother and I in the position of being largely ignored a lot of the time when we were growing up, and as adults, our relationship with our parents is very different from the relationship my sisters have with our parents, because they had a really different upbringing. I actually get along really well with my sisters, but my relationship with my parents is not as good, and often, when I have good news in my life, either my parents aren't receptive to it at all or they find some fault in how i chose to share the news with them.
So, now, the main issue:
I'm currently 5 weeks and 4 days pregnant. I found out I was pregnant REALLY early due to a discrepancy between my last period and when I ovulated. We told a few select people as soon as we found out (close friends, no family members), and after we found out that we were not as far along as we thought, because there were some concerns, we decided not to tell anyone else until at least July.
A couple of days ago, my mother asked me if I was pregnant. It was kind of strange and out of the blue, but I said no because we weren't planning on announcing anything and I just don't feel comfortable telling her right now (I know I sound like I'm justifying a lot).
Today we decided to have our families over to our house for a Mother's Day lunch. My boyfriend is really close to his mom and I really love her a lot too, but we knew that not inviting my family (even though we don't really get along) would be percieved disastrously.
During the lunch, my mom went to the bathroom (allegedly) and came out absolutely incensed that I had lied to her. She had gone into our bedroom, gone through my drawers, found my ultrasound picture in my bedside table, and flipped out. She announced our pregnancy to everyone via her insane ranting.
My mother in law was so great about it. She volunteered to pretend like it never happened and be super surprised when we announced it on our own time and was just generally really nice and kind about it but I'm so upset. My mom sent me a ranting text message later in the day about how she couldn't believe that I'd lie to her and that I don't deserve to be a mother.
I don't know what to do now. Do I respond? Is it possible to just block your mother and move on with your life? At what point is their betrayal enough to just give up on them as people? Or am I seriously overreacting? Thanks.