So my MIL passed away 3 years ago, but when she was alive, my sister (who lives about 1200 miles away and only ever met my MIL at my wedding) decided it was a good idea to trash talk me to her giving her a lot of (I'm hateful, cold hearted, bitchie, an awful person, I'm the reason her life sucks,ect.)ammo for her hate tank. She made the situation so much worse for my family and my DH.
We have had my sister on a TO since then, but we really have had very LC with her for years. We just don't have much of a relationship. Since the TO I have gotten random text messages, both nice lovey dovey ones, and "you're a hateful bitch whose going to hell." From her. I have BH them all and not responded in any way. She is blocked on the facebook and I don't have any other social media accounts.
My grandparents live about 20 minutes from me and we have a pretty good relationship. They know what went down with MIL and were supportive of the CO we did and also were aware of my sisters actions and her role in the whole thing and have not been supportive of my decision to TO. They have been FM for her and they get all CBF when shut down, but have mostly respected my decisions.
Well, she is now moving across the country and will be stopping by my grandparents house with her three kids and her huge dog and staying for an undetermined amount of time. She, according to my grandma, has not told them when she will be there nor for how long. My grandma is excited to see her and the great grandkids and hopes I can "let everything go so that she can have us all together and have a nice visit."
I have worked very hard to forgive my sister for her part in the crazy that was my life, and while I do forgive her, I just don't want a relationship with her. She is a narcissistic and toxic person and I have delt with that enough for one lifetime, but since I haven't CO I think I should go for just one of the days she's here to make my grandma happy and I'd love to see her kiddos again. They spent last summer here with my grandma and me. She's never met my DD and only saw my DS once when he was 9months and I'm currently 20weeks with baby 3. I'm not sure what to do and need yalls sound advice or kick in the pants again. If I do go to see her, do I set ground rules with my grandparents so that they are not all butt hurt ando surprised when I just get up, get the kiddos and take off?
We have had my sister on a TO since then, but we really have had very LC with her for years. We just don't have much of a relationship. Since the TO I have gotten random text messages, both nice lovey dovey ones, and "you're a hateful bitch whose going to hell." From her. I have BH them all and not responded in any way. She is blocked on the facebook and I don't have any other social media accounts.
My grandparents live about 20 minutes from me and we have a pretty good relationship. They know what went down with MIL and were supportive of the CO we did and also were aware of my sisters actions and her role in the whole thing and have not been supportive of my decision to TO. They have been FM for her and they get all CBF when shut down, but have mostly respected my decisions.
Well, she is now moving across the country and will be stopping by my grandparents house with her three kids and her huge dog and staying for an undetermined amount of time. She, according to my grandma, has not told them when she will be there nor for how long. My grandma is excited to see her and the great grandkids and hopes I can "let everything go so that she can have us all together and have a nice visit."
I have worked very hard to forgive my sister for her part in the crazy that was my life, and while I do forgive her, I just don't want a relationship with her. She is a narcissistic and toxic person and I have delt with that enough for one lifetime, but since I haven't CO I think I should go for just one of the days she's here to make my grandma happy and I'd love to see her kiddos again. They spent last summer here with my grandma and me. She's never met my DD and only saw my DS once when he was 9months and I'm currently 20weeks with baby 3. I'm not sure what to do and need yalls sound advice or kick in the pants again. If I do go to see her, do I set ground rules with my grandparents so that they are not all butt hurt ando surprised when I just get up, get the kiddos and take off?