My husband's family, all wonderful people, tend to have some habits that drive me nuts. His entire family is refusing to call my son by his name, and instead call him by a shortened version of his name. Think Beth if your name was Elizabeth. Both my husband and I hate the name they call him and have politely told them on several occasions that we wish they would use his preferred name. It wouldn't be so bad but they told his entire extended family that this nickname is the name he goes by. They are even throwing an out of state baby shower using this nickname. I had an extremely difficult pregnancy, spent the last 2 months on bedrest in the hospital, followed by an emergency c section that was quite traumatic. DS was in the nicu for 3 weeks, and we are extremely lucky that it wasn't longer. My point is that I didn't have any control over my pregnancy or the birth of my first bio child. And I am a person that has a plan and several back up plans after that. I like to be in control. I feel that my sons name should be at least one thing that I have control over. I looked up names for months with my husband. We put a lot of effort into a name we loved and that was meaningful to us. I explained this to them the last time I saw them. And told them my reasons why it was important that we stick with his given name. But it hasn't made a bit of difference. It's not that my inlaws hate his name, its just that they think it's too long for a baby. It's only 2 syllables! So my question is, am I overreacting by being bothered by this and wanting them to use ds's actual name? Or do I have a valid reason for being upset? And if so, how do I go about getting them all to stop using that nickname without just coming unglued on them?
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