I recommended from my Oct birth club to post here for some advice and help.
Some background info, I am a young mom, 18 and married, with a beautiful wonderful 10 mo old son. My husband has a HUGE Hispanic family, and I come from a small, white family. (Not racist at all!! Just a big culture difference)
When I had my baby and got married we started out on our own way too soon. Got an apartment we couldn't afford due to job loss, and had to move in with my in laws.
I am not allowed to make any decsions with my son. My husbands family, boasting about raising 8 kids, declare that they know better then me, a young first time mom, and therefore should always listen to them. To my great irritation, my husband usually agrees with them. Never defending me or taking my side. Here are just some of the problems I've encountered.
*Sister in law thinks my son is hers. Always takes him away from me if he's crying, whisks him away at random, spends WAY too much time with him and does things I don't approve of. (Giving him foods too early for example)
*His entire family ignores any decisions. For example he has a stand up jumper that changes how high the platform he stands on. They're always putting it too low where LO can't reach and can't jump. He gets marks on his legs. They always change it whenever I change it back
*Giving him unhealthy foods, or foods he's not ready for despite me telling them no; sugary cereals, French fries, spicy things, etc
Ugh I could go on for days. Even little things, like me saying I don't want my baby to learn to walk in a walker (it doesn't really help them walk in my opinion) turns into a huge fight. My husband always sides with them since they've raised more kids.
I'm so done! I'm at the point of wanting to divorce my husband simply because I can't stand his family. Can't stand how they treat me, can't stand how they seem to have claimed my son.
Any advice? I'm so at my limit!
Some background info, I am a young mom, 18 and married, with a beautiful wonderful 10 mo old son. My husband has a HUGE Hispanic family, and I come from a small, white family. (Not racist at all!! Just a big culture difference)
When I had my baby and got married we started out on our own way too soon. Got an apartment we couldn't afford due to job loss, and had to move in with my in laws.
I am not allowed to make any decsions with my son. My husbands family, boasting about raising 8 kids, declare that they know better then me, a young first time mom, and therefore should always listen to them. To my great irritation, my husband usually agrees with them. Never defending me or taking my side. Here are just some of the problems I've encountered.
*Sister in law thinks my son is hers. Always takes him away from me if he's crying, whisks him away at random, spends WAY too much time with him and does things I don't approve of. (Giving him foods too early for example)
*His entire family ignores any decisions. For example he has a stand up jumper that changes how high the platform he stands on. They're always putting it too low where LO can't reach and can't jump. He gets marks on his legs. They always change it whenever I change it back
*Giving him unhealthy foods, or foods he's not ready for despite me telling them no; sugary cereals, French fries, spicy things, etc
Ugh I could go on for days. Even little things, like me saying I don't want my baby to learn to walk in a walker (it doesn't really help them walk in my opinion) turns into a huge fight. My husband always sides with them since they've raised more kids.
I'm so done! I'm at the point of wanting to divorce my husband simply because I can't stand his family. Can't stand how they treat me, can't stand how they seem to have claimed my son.
Any advice? I'm so at my limit!
