Not a new member, but lurk on my other account. I'm trying to seek advice on dealing with my FMIL. I moved from the south to the west coast for my now fiance. We were in a LDR and spent most of the time traveling back and forth to see each other. March this year was two years of our LDR. In mid April I found out I was pregnant which led him suggesting I move closer to him. Through our two year LDR, I met his family four times. His mom was against our LDR because she didn't like the different time zones, and felt I was unfaithful to her son. There were times when he visited me that he had his mom with him. One time, she visited me by herself as a way to get to know me better. The whole visit was a nightmare.
Back to mid April.
When I found out I was pregnant he suggested I move close to him. I made the move in early June. She or none of his family knew we were expecting. Since making the move out here to the west coast, I'm regretting it. She calls him everyday. Comes by every Friday night with her husband for dinner, buys house decorations for his house, and the kicker, comes by every afternoon to walk his dogs. I've been doing it ever since I got here, and she makes trouble for no reason claiming I'm irresponsible when it comes to getting home in time to walk the dogs.
Having access to his home she snoops. She found the ultrasound we had in our bedroom. It made her mad that we didn't let her know she was going to be a grandmother. Her first grandchild. On Father's Day she told everyone that it was her son's first Father's Day celebration, and next year would be officially a year.
I only found out I was pregnant in mid april and we have months and months to go. This past week she brought over a stroller she bought and dais it is for our baby. The our encompassed her. I don't know what to do. I don't want to attack him and say he created this mess. Neither do I wish to spend my pregnancy dealing with his mom and her crazy behavior. She made it clear she didn't want a bastard grandchild, so it's why he proposed to me.
Back to mid April.
When I found out I was pregnant he suggested I move close to him. I made the move in early June. She or none of his family knew we were expecting. Since making the move out here to the west coast, I'm regretting it. She calls him everyday. Comes by every Friday night with her husband for dinner, buys house decorations for his house, and the kicker, comes by every afternoon to walk his dogs. I've been doing it ever since I got here, and she makes trouble for no reason claiming I'm irresponsible when it comes to getting home in time to walk the dogs.
Having access to his home she snoops. She found the ultrasound we had in our bedroom. It made her mad that we didn't let her know she was going to be a grandmother. Her first grandchild. On Father's Day she told everyone that it was her son's first Father's Day celebration, and next year would be officially a year.
I only found out I was pregnant in mid april and we have months and months to go. This past week she brought over a stroller she bought and dais it is for our baby. The our encompassed her. I don't know what to do. I don't want to attack him and say he created this mess. Neither do I wish to spend my pregnancy dealing with his mom and her crazy behavior. She made it clear she didn't want a bastard grandchild, so it's why he proposed to me.