Since DD has been born i have noticed my feelings twoards my husbands family have changed. Before DD was born i was happy around them and got along with most of my DH family. During my pregnancy i felt they were too involved and were making plans on how to spend time with DD, which really bothered me it kind of felt they wanted to take her from me. Everytime his family saw me they would grab my belly which made me upset so i stopped coming around for a while. I told SIL i was bothered by people touching me and she went crying to DuH. DuH said being touched came along with pregnancy. I was livid, i value my personal space and for everyone to touch me when they wanted was a huge no for m but DuH wouldnt say anything. We argued and he still didnt seem to understand. During labor DuH decided to call everyone and everyone came and waited for DD to be born, it was a short and fast labor and everyone wanted to be coming in to hold the baby. I didn't have a spine then and didnt say anything then but it bothered me. After baby and i were home they would constantly call and bother us about coming to see baby. I would talk to DuH and tell him i didnt want them around and we would constantly fight he would say im being "mean" and it was wrong to not let them come. His gma showed up twice luckily i was BF DD but they would constantly call and text about pictures and i felt suffocated. When DD was 2 months old we had to swing by my FIL's house and BIL was saying how he hasnt got to spend any time with DD with an attitude and it feels he was directing that twoards me since we dont get along much. Now im 3 months PP and i cannot get over it, i dread seeing his family i dont like them and i hate being aroud them. I had a great relationship with SIL but she cries to DuH everytime i tell her something. Now i see her and i truly understand BEC. I am afraid that if i tell DuH about how i feel another argument will start. I dont know what to do....since becoming a mom i have been speaking up about boundaries with DuH family and they dont like it. I wish i could move far away but its not possible. I feel they ruined my pregnancy and post partum time and thats why i cant stant being around them....i need advice because i dont know what to do.
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